Hello everyone, I'm CJ and welcome back to another one of my extremely all-over-the-place posts!

To clarify, I am new to bdsm [ still a virgin] but I know what I like, and vanilla is just not interesting to me. I understand this is a problem for some people, so I'd like to clarify beforehand. Not looking for just FWB, or a one time thing, desire long term with meetings. I don't expect this to be my last relationship but that would be a blessing.

Appearance wise, Mixed, have glasses, shoulder length hair, 5'4, and 140 pounds (trying to lose 10-15 lbs. Its rough out here). 

About me,

I consider myself playful! I love to tease my partners and get to know people over longer periods of time. Maybe its just my awkward nature, but flirting immediately is hard for me and will usually warrant an, "oh…haha" in response.

In my comfort zones, I'm fairly dominant in nature, with difficulty being vulnerable. While uncomfortable or unfamiliar situations, quite shy.

What I'm looking for,

A dom. Lol I should have clarified because I clearly sent mixed signals! Someone flexible and confident in their place in life. I'm a controlled mess and would love someone to offset that. Vulnerability is awesome, but having confidence in your future is also sick. Being able to keep up with me and patience while having realistic expectations; I work, I go to school, I won't have infinite time to stay on. I'm only interested in mature guys older than me, non negotiable. Someone who provides structure and knows themself, I want to be the best version of myself and need help at this point. :(

Hobbies,

I play video games (a lot someone interested in them gets super duper bonus points), bake and cook, and am trying to work out and lose a bit of weight! I also draw a bit and even if we don't click feel free to ask for something! 

The Good,

Personality! :)

Been told I'm fun to be around

Low maintenance unless we hit it off and I want to talk a bit too much! ^{^}

Challenge?

Good listener

Great trip planner 

Personality again??? My bad is piling here…

The Bad,

I'm not a model </3 Think a solid 5/10 out here 

A complete mess (its a wip)

Self diagnosed ADHD

Night shift worker with a truly awful sleep schedule

Following the law of chastity but I'm not religious (open to discussion about it)

Here's my kink list! (Not up to date so feel free to send questions) :

https://i.imgur.com/EYeBsY0.png

Don't intend on relocating for at least 2 years. 

Some minor requests,

Send an introduction of similar length or quality to mine and in your initial messages and using proper punctuation; I try to respond in the same manner. Hesitant to poly relationships would be a very hard sell.