Hello! I’m posting because I feel like this is the correct next step to take in my journey of submissive exploration. That might seem a bit dramatic, but please let me explain. For the last 10 years, every relationship I’ve been in has, at one point or another, included some aspect of kink. In all of these dynamics I was always the dominant party. I have been convinced, for many years, that I was purely dominant and would never be interested in personally submitting or exploring submission.

However, about a year ago I began to have the desire to explore being submissive. If we get to know each other well enough, I’d be happy to share the details of how that desire came about. Regardless, the desire was there and I slowly but surely began to explore different fantasies or things I might be interested in online. Then, wonder of wonders, I was scrolling on this exact subreddit and I found a post that managed to get me to take the plunge and respond. I was lucky enough to meet my wonderful Domme who I have been exploring this new part of myself with for the past 6 months.

This Domme of mine lives far enough away from me, however, that meeting in person often is impractical. These past six months have been incredible, and I’ve learned so much about myself. I’ve grown an amazing amount. I believe that I’m ready to take another step in my journey and begin exploring submission as a more involved part of my life, rather than almost purely virtually. My current Domme was actually the one to suggest this to me, and has encouraged me to reach out for someone local.

Now that you know probably far too much backstory, here’s some more pertinent information! I’m 29, Male, bearded and with long brown hair. I am happy to share pictures upon request, once we get to know each other a bit better. I have found I enjoy service submission, especially when it’s well recognized and appreciated. I prefer a gentler style of domination and submission. I’m looking for someone close enough to me that we can see each other regularly (no less than once a month, but once a week may be more than I can commit to at this time). I would enjoy regular contact in between when we get together as well, texting daily or every other day, with the occasional phone call if we haven’t met in person for a while. Non kink wise, I’m a bit of a nerd. I enjoy playing Dungeons and Dragons with my friends often, reading fantasy novels, and even indulging in a bit of writing on occasion.

I’m eager to serve in many ways. In addition to my fondness for service submission, which includes a desire to cook or to clean, or to perform helpful tasks for you such as researching topics or assisting in shopping, I would also like to explore more sexual submission as well. I truly find pleasure in finding out what it is that makes my Domme happy, and being able to provide it in whatever fashion I can. For example, my current Domme has explored chastity with me and I would like to continue exploring that if it pleased you as well. I’m also interested in exploring anal play. I have also found I have a desire to perform body worship, in the form of kissing or massaging, and would like to expand on that in a more sexual sense, rather than purely sensual. I believe what it comes down to is that I want to please someone, and I would be interested in exploring all the ways that my desire to please could be incorporated into a sexual relationship.

What I would like from you is someone gentle and caring who truly wants to nurture and guide me towards being the best that I can be. I enjoy high protocol as well, and following rules. Being blessed with a pat on the head or told I’m a good boy sends a shiver down my spine like nothing else; I’ve found few other things quite as exciting. I am looking for someone who takes pride in their appearance and is confident and comfortable in how they look. More bluntly, I consider myself HWP and would like for my Domme to be as well. I love to see a beautiful smile, one that can be both at times adoring or mischievous, as the situation permits.

I’m in upstate/western New York, depending on your definition. I’m looking as far East as Buffalo or as far West as Syracuse. Southwards there aren’t any big cities to point to as a frame of reference, but if you live in one of those towns I’m happy to do my best to make that work as well.

If you’ve made it this far, hopefully that means you’re interested in someone who’s comfortable in their submission but excited to continue to grow and learn. When you reach out to me, please tell me a little about your non kink hobbies, your experience as a Domme, and what you’re looking to get out of the relationship and dynamic we would build together. I look forward to hearing from you and, if all goes well, serving you soon.