Hey there~

I have been struggling to make BDSM connections IRL due to toxic local community environments. Part of me deeply wants to feel a connection with someone in a kinky way, but I’m scared/nervous to do so IRL through dating apps. I can’t decide if I want to be monogamous or polyamorous, and I’m struggling to find queer connections, so I’ve turned to Reddit to see what’s possible. I would like to pursue something that is strictly online and text based, preferably through Discord.

A little about me… I’m in my 30’s, identify as queer, AFAB, demisexual, sapiosexual, and feel genderfluid. I live on the west coast of the US and identify as a gamer/geek. I believe in self growth and work really hard to be a better person. I’ve been in the BDSM lifestyle for 15 years. I got my experience in more Leather circles, so I feel “old school”. I am a Switch that leans more toward being a Top/Domme, but I also enjoy being a “good girl” for my Top. I also identify as a primal, so that’s a thing.

- Desirable Kinks: impact play, sensation play, bondage, ropework, control, protocol.

- Hard limits: watersports, scat, vore, gore, ABDL, age regression, 24/7.

I am looking for individuals who are 25 in age, literate, emotionally intelligent, nice, and willing to communicate on a deep level. Establishing a friendship alongside the kinky fun would be nice, because it would help me maintain interest/passion. I won’t collar/be collared right out of the gate, but am open to writing roleplays where characters could be. I don’t expect either of us to be talking exclusively to each other, but am open to talking about each other’s dynamics. I would prefer to interact with other LGBTQ folks.

If you are interested, send me a DM. Tell me a little bit about yourself, what you’re looking for, and something you’re passionate about.

Edit: Updated what I'm looking for. Been overwhelmed by requests from cis het males and I would like to make more queer connections.