Hello Reddit, my second try.... I would like to develop a loving, long term in person connection with a romantic, kind and intelligent man, who is playful, resilient and emotionally available.

I'm an articulate, well educated professional with a responsible job, striving for emotional intelligence. You will hopefully match that in your own life. My interests are varied and wholesome. .. geeky sci fi, the great outdoors, fun with friends and family, baking, arts and culture and reading. If you are striving for an intimate, in person relationship which starts online and ends in the distant future then please read on. I'm seeking someone who is more of a pleasure or soft dom than a sadist though I'm willing to explore. Mainly I'm hoping to hear from someone who wants physical and mental control of someone who is compliant and wishes only to please. Let's be each other's anchors in the storm.

I am black, with a riot of curls, and 5'3". I look a lot younger than my years. Though a regular gym goer I am a curvy plus size. I am interested in hearing from you if you are over 35 years old and not too far from London/East of England, or able to travel. I like twinkly blue eyes in a man but enjoy thoughtful and considerate behaviour more.

Please be up for regular contact, as I'm a chatterbox and people pleasing extrovert....and please be willing to make time to grow this into a real, intense and fulfilling dynamic. I'm a mum of one, which is why I am in a platonic marriage with agreement on my freedom to explore.

If you are clever, composed and confident, able to take control of someone in the bedroom and willing to shoulder decision making outside of it from time to time, then please get in touch. And if you do...Please include the word mellifluous in the subject line of your message and tell me something about yourself