Hello my dear reader. This is my second version of this post, changing some things around compared to the first, though it's still on my profile if you're interested.

As a tldr, I'm an inexperienced virgin submissive who's looking to take his first serious steps into the world of BDSM. I'm open to online or offline, casual or romantic. But most importantly I want some form of emotional connection, and not be just each other's kink dispensers.

If you're interested then please keep reading. It is a lengthy thing, so feel free to skip or skim what disinterests you.

Appearance: I'm 22, 6'0" foot/1.85 m. I have long brown hair, greyish blue eyes, white skin, a beard (optional) and a relatively fit body type. I work out thrice a week, mostly focusing on weights and cardio. Clothing wise I mostly wear black and maroon red, transitioning from a hoodie phase into cute sweaters and turtlenecks.

I'll share pictures of my body, but will only show my face or nude images with someone willing to do the same.

SFW Interests: In many ways I'm rather nerdy. I enjoy reading a lot, mostly YA fantasy with the occasional mix of more traditional fantasy and sci fi. I enjoy anime but mostly manga, absolutely loving tragic and dramatic romance. I spend a lot of my time on videogames, though have started cutting down on it in more recent times. I run a weekly game of Dungeons & Dragons for my friends, and play in yet another one. I also love interesting people, and conversing with them, I'd love to hear about all your little eccentricities.

I'm currently between jobs, having graduated with an IT degree a year ago, doing odd jobs since then and looking to get into university after the summer, or find a job before then.

What I'm looking for: I'm looking to make a connection with someone, either online or in real life. To give up control and indulge in this game of ours. I don't have a lot of demands for what you are, age, appearance, they're not all that relevant to me.

What is important is the sort of connection. The faceless connections over back and forth texts feel so very impersonal. I want to get to know each other, and not just talk when horniness strikes, only to forget about each other during all conventional hours of the day. What this means in practice is that I'd like to become friends, and not just benefits.

I'd most likely want to have at least a voice-call before getting into anything overtly sexual. Or meet in real life, if you happen to be local to my area.

Now as for the sort of domme I'm looking for, my kinks below should give an idea of that.

NSFW Interests: I am a sub, despite being a virgin I know this. There's not an ounce of dom or switch in me. I'm a sub both in and out of the bedroom, I don't like being in charge, I don't like to make too many choices, I like supporting my friends, propping them up to be better.

On the other hand I try not to use submissiveness as a crutch. It's not an excuse to refrain from initiating things, or a way to grow dependent on another. I'm not "all sub all the time", so I don't expect you to be "all dom all the time."

I'm inexperienced, there are many things I think I'd like, and there are things I think I know I like. But in reality I don't know, it's one thing to read about a kink in erotica, it's another to have someone standing over you with a strap-on. So take everything that follows with a grain of salt, and know that the list is far from exhaustive. After all, there must also be many things I don't know I like~

Anyway, in no particular order:

• Bondage: My first kink, any sort of restraint, be it extreme or light. I've never experienced the true helplessness of practicing bondage with a partner, but I've quite literally dreamed of it.

• Humiliation: Being made to feel lesser than you. It could be gentle and loving, in a "low expectations" kind of way, or harsh and dehumanizing.

• General control: Being told to do things, even little things like what to wear, eat, do, etc. As said I don't expect you to be all domme all the time, but I love even tiny aspects of control.

• Voice: This is a strange one, and more of an attraction than a kink. I love people's voices, how someone sounds tends to be more important than what someone looks like for me. Deep voices, gentle voices, harsh voices, accents, there's not one thing I love, each voice has it's own kind of beauty, though there are some ugly ones as well sadly -.-

• Pain: Punishment, impact, pinches and clamps, strikes and swats, heat, cold, all of it. Masochism is hard to explain, many have done it before, much better than I ever could. In short, I like some pain, it could be just a little spice, or so much that it brings tears to my eyes. (However I'm not as much into cbt type pain.)

• Rules: Married with pain mentioned above this, rules and punishments. Things to do, and repercussions for not doing them. They could be tasks, they could be as simple as using a honorific.

• Possession: I want to be yours. To belong to you, for you to want me in some way, and keep others from me. A possessiveness perhaps.

• Powerlessness: Losing control over a situation, not being able to stop something, be it pain, pleasure or otherwise. It's something that as far as I know will only really work in real life, but regardless something I'd want to experience.

You might perhaps notice very few physical, directly sexual kinks. The reason for that should be obvious, again, virgin. But it perhaps also comments on my sexuality, BDSM is almost synonymous with sex for me, the image of someone tied down or being hit is perhaps more arousing than naked images.

As for hard limits, there are a few. Any permanent injuries, bathroom things like scat and pee, cuckolding, diapers, making me eat my cum/cei.

Conclusion: Message me if you're interested in talking, and don't be afraid to ask for pictures if appearances are important to you. I love to hear your thoughts. Let's get to know each other, and I love to hear people's ideas on kink, your desires, thoughts, emotions and philosophy on this whole dynamic.