Hi. I'm a 29 year old straight male, looking to meet a Submissive online, hopefully for a long term relationship.
About me. I'm 5'10'', mixed race (Asian/White). I look predominantly Asian. Muscular, but not gym rat jacked. In vanilla life, my biggest hobby is gaming. I play on PC and Switch mostly, and it is a dealbreaker that I want someone to enjoy my hobby with me. If you don't like games or think they're childish, it's not gonna work. I can cook, clean, and I take care of my pets, so I'm good with cats and dogs. I prefer cats over dogs, but I like animals in general and am happy to have both if you're a dog person. More exotic pets are also ok, but just know that I don't have experience with them and will probably be uncomfortable with like, tarantulas or things of that nature. I exercise fairly regularly mainly with my home gym. I also enjoy reading and writing. I like fantasy the most, but sci-fi is also good. I play D&D with my online friends. I enjoy watching shows and movies with loved ones. I'm definitely more of a homebody, preferring nights-in instead of nights-out. I used to live and work in Japan for 5 years, and I moved back to the States during the pandemic. I can speak and read Japanese to a limited degree; I would put it at a "competent conversational" level.
What I'm looking for:
Personality-wise - I'm a full on Dominant. So I would like to find someone to be my Submissive, in addition to a life partner. I'm interested in ages 21-33. I'm willing to talk if you fall outside of that range, but we would need to talk more if you do. I don't have kids of my own, but I would like to have bio kids eventually (not anytime soon), so again, that has to be something you're ok with or it won't work. I'm 420 tolerant. I hesitate to say friendly cause I do not partake in any substances, but if you want to drink a beer/wine or eat a gummy, I don't mind. Just know that I don't do any of that. I'd prefer no smoking of anything though.
Physical Appearance-wise - Height does not matter to me. Weight-wise, I would prefer someone who at least values exercise, though for me I'd prefer skinnier versus overweight. I'm in-shape and workout to keep it that way, but I'm not jacked or have an exceedingly athletic build. I do believe in reciprocity however, so I would just ask that you are willing to exercise; I would actually prefer someone who wants to be a gym buddy. A little meat on your bones is fine, even preferred in most scenarios, but I also can't be your own personal trainer if you are looking for a weight loss journey.
I prefer Whites or Asians (I wonder why) but I am also open to talking. Sadly, tattoos and non-ear piercings are a big turn-off for me; nothing personal, I like that tattoos and unconventional piercings are personal/important to people for self-expression, my brain just can't stomach the look of them. I can maybe deal with one or two small tattoos, but it's not my cup of tea, so if you're addicted, it's not gonna work out either. I'm also big on breast play and ANR/Lactation (more on that next), so I would prefer bigger breasts if possible; D-cup or larger is best, but again, I'm willing to talk.
With all of the Vanilla out of the way, I'll get into the meatier bits. Again, Dominant. I prefer slave or petplay. I'm a big fan of collars and choosing clothing for our mutual amusement. I am ok with DDLG if you're into it, but I don't seek that out in particular. Disclaimer: I'm not a big fan of Brat Taming; I would prefer my sub to obey without question, but I can handle a Brat/Brattiness as long as I get my way in the end. Just know that if Bratty behavior is important to you, we're going to have to figure out what we're ok with, or it probably won't work. My kinks themselves are ANR/Lactation, CNC, Somno, Breeding, Free Use, Breast Play and Ropeplay/Bondage. I have a piqued interest in TPE. ANR/Lactation is probably my biggest kink, as I mentioned earlier, so please be ok or at least open-minded about that. I have experience giving commands, so if you are seeking that, we can talk more.
Ideally for me, I envision a relationship where on the surface, it's a regular vanilla relationship. I am fine with dating, spending time together, eventually moving in together somewhere (I'm open to moving), the whole Hollywood/Lifetime movie experience. On the outside, I'm a very supportive individual of my S.O.; I recognize that you can be and probably are your own individual, and I am happy to support that for you, emotionally and otherwise, as would be expected of a life partner. I would ask the same in return.
If you are in NY, or within driving distance of my area, then I'm willing and happy to meet up. If not, then I am perfectly fine with an online relationship until we can eventually meet up. Time is no issue for me with that.
A turn-on for me, however, is the dichotomy of surface level and behind closed doors. While I'm happy to be a golden-retriever boyfriend for the public eye, pampering you like a princess (my love language is acts of service), I ultimately want someone who is willing to submit everything to me once we are out of view. Someone to surrender control of their body and mind to me. I want a toy or a pet; something to use for my amusement. A sub who worships me, who knows the value of kneeling before me and finds pleasure in doing so. I want to pull the strings and make the puppet dance. For all of the love and affection I shower on you in the day to day, I want returned to me with subservience and servility ten-fold. And I don't want anybody to know this is even occurring unless I want them to know.
If you're still here and all of this sounds appealing to you, send me a private message or a chat, whichever. I'm ok with talking on Reddit for the initial bits, but I would like to/plan to move somewhere else like Discord later on. SFW pictures of myself are available upon request; I will ask for some pictures of yourself early on and provide my own just so we know who we are talking to and to see if we fit each other's tastes. Video calls I also expect at least once, to verify we are not catfish, but if things go well, I am fine with video calls when requested.
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