First of all, the length of this post reflects the effort I like to put into meeting a potential partner. If you're going to reach out, I appreciate an amount of effort being made, including at least a paragraph or two of info about yourself and what you're looking for. I will probably ignore "hi"s and low effort intros. Thanks!

I love the contrast of the gentle and sweet with the taboo. The defender doing horrible things to those he has sworn to protect, playing with their bodies and minds while telling them he'd never let anyone hurt them.

I like to be sweet and gentle myself, making sure my partner is happy and taken care of, fulfilling their darkest fantasies and seeding their mind with my own. Making them feel genuinely safe through extensive conversations about consent, limits, aftercare and emotional needs, and following through on my promises to respect them.

But I also like the dark and intense, telling my partner how good they are for me as I subject them to deep humiliation and vulnerability. Training them in the protocols and rituals I enjoy as acts of service and worship. Teaching them what I like to see, hear, and feel. Using their body and mind for my pleasure, and calling it so. Learning every inch of my partner's mind and body, having the ability to exploit their fantasies and reactions with precision, relentlessly teasing them to feed a slow mental burn that drops them deep into sub or pet space. Then having the power to cherish that fragile, compromised mind and take advantage of it... knowing they are also getting deep satisfaction out of their use.

I really like slow, methodical and creative play. Orgasm control, sensation play, praise, humiliation, training and protocols are my go-tos. Depriving my partner of pleasure and requiring them to beg me with their words and body, or ripping orgasms out of them with no regard for how overstimulated they may already be. Teaching poses, recited responses, and the proper ways to present. Saying "aw!" with a condescending smile while they tremble with pain or pleasure at my hand. Well communicated group play that respects all parties involved. My only limits are ABDL, filth/toilet play, animals, breath play, blood and intense impact play. Also, to clarify, I'm not much into harsh degradation -- I prefer to stick to sexual humiliation.

I'm a queer cis white male, 27, with an average build, tattoos and maintained facial hair, an established white collar career, and a cute cat. Nerdy, foodie, politically liberal, history buff, big into board games and being outdoors. I'm looking for something long term, maybe eventually involving symbolic collaring, with someone I can feel safe investing in emotionally and cherishing. Someone who also enjoys absurd goofball humor, memes, good food, video games and (importantly) enjoys being active / outdoorsy. I find passion attractive, whether it be for a career or hobbies -- I love supporting people in their pursuits. I'm open to and experienced with ethical non monogamy as well.

If you find any of this enticing, send me a message! I need a good amount of talking and getting to know each other before jumping into sexual or kinky play, and prefer discord as a platform. Hope to hear from you :)