hey all :) fairly new to reddit, not new to kink! I have a Fetlife profile with more about me if we connect first.

I’m an AFAB nonbinary person who is also comfortable presenting as femme. my kinks include bondage and restraints, impact play, sensory deprivation, and orgasm control. there are others of course, but those are a start. I haven’t actually tried petplay, but it’s something I’m very much interested in and want to try—preferably the softer side of things first, rather than eating of a bowl on the floor, as I’m a cuddly kitten by nature. as a sub, I like to please, and I like praise, but not degradation or humiliation. other limits are diapers, breathplay, and anything involving the toilet. I have a few bratty tendencies, but that tends to be more in relation to punishment and pain. sometimes I do switch, especially for the right partner, although I’m never going to be a domme, only a soft switch. when it comes to partners, I highly prefer women, nonbinary and trans folks, and have rarely been attracted to cis men. I’m a lot pickier with cis guys, sorry not sorry, but you can still shoot your shot.

outside of kink is the more important part to me, honestly. I need to know and like and get along with someone before sexual attraction or intimacy. although I’m interested in and I’ve been in a 24/7 dynamic, I’m not interested in someone controlling my life for the sake of it or trying to make important decisions for me. real dominants respect their subs and their lives, in my opinion. I have a life outside of kink — I’m a lawyer, work over 50 hours a week, and I live with roommates which makes things difficult at times. I’m not always submissive in daily life: I’m an overachiever and have goals and ambitions in life. that being said, I’m not always this serious. I like video games, Marvel comics and the MCU, stuffed animals, and collecting indie silicone dildos and squishies. I’m also a furry, but it’s not a huge part of my life. although I identify as nonbinary, I present as pretty feminine! paint my nails, wear heels and dresses, that kinda thing.

physically I’m 5’1” and Asian Canadian, about average weight (though i've put on some pandemic pudge). recently I’ve gone back to swimming to try and get active, and I could always use some friendly motivation on that front. my former domme never had any issue picking me up and tossing me around if that appeals to anybody ;) I’m a little on the curvier side now, and I did gain some on my butt and tummy, but I kind of dig the softness.

so with all that… please send me a message! I’m in western Canada and not interested in relocating because my family and career plans are here, but long distance has never bothered me if it’s temporary and if there are plans to change that. I’m not terribly interested in just an online dynamic in the long run, and would prefer something with the opportunity for irl meetings or something more permanent. that being said, I’m also open to making friends of course. :)