Hey there! My name is Goldi and I’m a 5’4 sassy submissive with wild chin length blonde hair (this changes often but on average it is blonde) and blue eyes. I am in the Middle Tennessee area. I’m a bit of a Smart Ass Masochist, and I crave discipline. I’ve been in the BDSM lifestyle for going on 8 years now. The last 6 of which has been off and on irl as well as online. However the last year an a half or so I haven’t done much active submitting because i had a major medical trauma and lately have found a mental wall when it comes to my submission. I would really love to find someone to help me break that wall. I find i need my submissive needs met on a consistent basis before being able to emotionally submit to someone, not just physically submit to them. Those needs are: -Discipline -Accountability -Words of affirmation -verbal degradation (am happy to go into specifics about this one in chat). -Safety -Communication -Consistently upholding rules and expectations that you set

I’m happy to go into more detail about these in a private chat. But for now onto some vanilla highlights. I’m an avid reader, but I despise assigned reading. I read over 90 books a year. My other hobbies include crocheting, video games, jigsaw puzzles and walking.

Here’s what I’m looking for in you: experienced, creative Dom/me with a sadistic side, who likes to micromanage subs and help them be better versions of themselves. I need you to be familiar with Drop and Aftercare and well versed in discipline. I’m looking for a dynamic that revolves around mid to high levels of enforced protocol. I use the safe word color system and subscribe to theory of the D/s hierarchy of needs. Age gap is a huge plus. I would like you to also be open to learning new things from me if the opportunity arises. I’m in the education field and adore sharing my knowledge with people when i can.

It should be noted that I’m not looking to become a slave, I crave banter, and laughter and teasing. I can get a little bratty every now and then, and I will need you to remind me of my place. Bonus points if you can video chat/ talk on the phone occasionally.

I need someone to help me with accountability. I also need retraining in things like orgasm control, manners, and protocol because I am out of practice for the last year or so due to the aforementioned major medical trauma.

I have an incredibly long list of both kinks and limits, which I would love to discuss in detail with you. But for now, my top kinks are discipline, light watersports, verbal degradation, humiliation, and forced self care.

Also: I am ethically non monogamous with my husband, who knows and supports that I am looking for a Dom, but is not interested in being part of a dynamic. If that is a deal breaker for you, I understand and wish you the best finding what you’re looking for. Otherwise, I look forward to reading your introductory message, which I’m hoping will include your favorite emoji 😊, name, and ASL. Be forewarned i have a fairly long vetting questionnaire & I have a habit of not responding to messages less than 10 words.

Lastly, I don’t use kik or Snapchat, but instead prefer to use the telegram app or discord (if we have to). Also, I prefer reddit chat, but I’ll do my best to also respond to mail.