Hello new friend. I'm Ethan, and I'd like to very thoroughly get to know you.

I'm an experienced and talented Bay Area-based Dominant.

I've had my share of submissive partners over the years, both IRL and online. By this point, I've developed a pretty clear notion of what I'm looking for, and I'm looking for someone who matches that description and with whom I can cultivate a (hopefully) medium-to-long-term D/s dynamic.

So let's put the magical matching power of Reddit to the test.

About me:

By day, I'm the leader of software development at a tech company in the SF Bay Area. By night, I'm usually asleep (I'm an insomniac and so I keep to a strict Ayurvedic sleep schedule because some book told me to, and if there's on thing I deeply believe in - it's books.)

I'm educated, patient, stable, twisted, loyal, ethical, methodical, thorough, deviant, and (I like to think) pretty funny.

My kinky interests and skills are pretty broad:

• Obviously I like domination. I'm also into discipline and protocol, and (with the right person) master/slave. This can extend outside the bedroom - I'm quite good at helping women make and stick to plans to achieve difficult long-term goals.
• I'm a light sadist, but mostly I just enjoy leaving pretty marks (to remind you that I've been there.)
• I'm objectively pretty smart and professionally successful, and so I enjoy mentoring women and feeling like I'm a constructive presence in your life (even while I simultaneously corrupt and degrade you.)
• I'm pretty into degradation / humiliation (but it's not mandatory.) I particularly love the way a girl looks when she's both embarrassed and about to cum.
• I guess you could call me a "pleasure dom." With me, you're going to cum a lot (but only when I tell you to.)
• For me, the physical side of kink is mostly subordinate to the mental. But I've got a well-stocked toybox full of paddles, floggers, whips, plugs, gags, vibrators, hoods, and rope.

My interests outside of kink are also pretty broad - I'm very into philosophy, technology/software, AI (and AI art), statistics, history, comedy, politics (world, national, and these days mostly local), economics and political economy, video and board games, and (more recently) pharmacologically-enhanced spirituality.

I know a bit about a lot of things and enjoy teaching you weird factoids and sending you brain-friend memes.

What I'm looking for:

I like smart, ambitious, curious, kinky women. I'm looking for someone who basically has her life together, but is maybe just a bit too buttoned up and needs someone to rip off that button-down blouse and help her shamelessly discover and express her inner raging slut.

Flirting and build up are fun, so you'd better be more than just basically literate. I'm also kind of ridiculous, so you'd better have a sense of humor (otherwise you're really not going to like it when I edge you by making jokes when you just want me to shut up and let you cum.)

I like being able to make a positive impact in your life, so I click particularly well with people on the verge of some major life transition, e.g. students about to graduate or women considering a new career.

I live in the East Bay outside of San Francisco in California and I'm open to online or IRL. I have the means to travel (or to bring you to me) so distance is not necessarily a barrier.

Also, just to put it out there now in case it's a dealbreaker: you should know that I am in an open marriage. My wife is very kinky but is also dominant and so she prefers that I find my own subs to play with. (She's also bi, so if you're lucky and obedient, we might bring her in to co-top you at some point.)

And that's me! Let's meet and have a wildly irresponsible amount of fun.

Send me a message and let's see where things go.