Apologies for the lengthy post, I feel like when I've tried this before I've tried to make my posts short and sweet but then just end up having repeating conversations with people. So this is my attempt to be completely upfront and clear!

So firstly, what am I looking for? I'm looking for like-minded kinky people to chat with, that's really it. I would say that I’m a heavily sub-leaning switch. I feel like for me the switchiness is entirely based on my interaction with another person rather than a mood, I’ll switch for a person. But it’s been very rare that I’ve found someone that I feel like could be submissive with me, so I am mostly looking for people that feel like they’re more on the Domme side of things, but it’s not a rule! I feel like you’ll tease it out in conversation and find a balance.

But! I’ve found that when I’ve got straight into kink it kind of fizzles out quite quickly. I want to share stories, I want to talk about our 2023 goals, I want us to talk about outfits, hobbies, trips. And I’ve kind of struggled with that a tad with guys in the past, so I’m making this an F4F post because I want to talk to women right now, but I am bi.

For just getting to know each other I like a lot! I’m pretty outgoing and active. I love swimming, walking, yoga. I also love design, all kinds of fashion, travel, photography. I love learning new things and exploring! At home I play games of all sorts and play online with friends.

And as for kink, I honestly don’t really know what I like. I thought I did but it just seems to depend on the person. In the past someone has asked me to write something on myself after chatting for a bit, and I didn’t enjoy it. But then more recently someone who I’d been chatting to for a while and really getting to know asked me to do something similar and I loved it. Like with hobbies I love doing new things I didn’t expect, and I’m looking for someone who wants to go on a bit of an adventure to get there.

I want you to have a realistic expectation of what I’m capable of however. Things like TPE seem really hot and I think if that’s possible for someone that’s amazing, but I don’t know how to manage that kind of thing online. I have a social life, I have a job, I have commitments. I’m looking for something that to me is actually more powerful than TPE, something where you’ll just have another person in your mind because you enjoy the dynamic and the way that they feel when you talk to them. You want to involve them anyway you can, so you’ll make time for them whenever you can – but while looking after yourself. But if you’ve read this far and you’re just like “just tell me something!” then I’ll say that I’ve enjoyed exploring a lot of BDSM. I especially enjoy being teased and controlled. I love making slight modifications to my day or behaviour, in a way that nobody would really notice, but I do.

My limits are that I don’t enjoy much to do with toilets et al. I don’t like any permanency. I don’t like making other people uncomfortable, and I don’t like standing out beyond reasonable expectations of a situation. I don’t enjoy jumping into the extremities of BDSM without a careful understanding and realistic expectations of what’s okay. I have never shared any naked photos of me. We can go into more detail as we get to know each other.

And so finally just a note on being trans. I actually really hate it. I hate being reminded of it, and I hate that it makes me different. I don’t enjoy trans porn, and I don’t enjoy feminisation even though I am really femme. I’ve used the F4F tag first because that’s all I want and I hate that I have to add the T. I actually disagree with the T4x tag because ‘trans’ as a catchall for a gender is not a thing. That’s a wide umbrella. But I understand why it's a blocker for people, I do. I’m only a few years into transition, but I’ve got boobs and a butt, I dress femme and I really don’t look especially queer. I haven't had surgery yet and I use the anatomical names for the parts I currently have. So I’m basically just a kinky girl standing in front of another kinky girl, asking her to talk about kink (and other stuff).