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Hi everyone, I'm Josh.
Outside of the bedroom, I'm happy go lucky, work a lot, enjoy scuba diving, mountain biking and all of the usual things. I love going out to visit new places, cafés, restaurants and museums. I would describe myself as assertive, as in I stand up for what's right and I'm left leaning politically speaking. I love my job as it helps me truly help people and is really rewarding sometimes, but more on that if we connect.
I'm average height, 173cm precisely, so if you're looking for a man mountain I'm probably not for you... But I do stay in shape and regularly run. I have a close shaved strawberry blonde beard and short hair at the moment. Bright blue eyes, Caucasian. I was born in England and have an accent still, but moved here when I was 16 with my family, so it's not as strong as it used to be.
I am COMPLETELY fine with sharing verified photos, but I won't post a photo of me here because I've had some awful experiences with scammers in the past... Think blackmail and extortion... Silly me 🤷🏼
Sexually and privately, I am submissive. What that looks like has varied over the years with different partners, but ultimately, I absolutely crave that feeling of putting my partners needs and desires before my own. I really enjoy that feeling of being put in my place and giving satisfaction, amusement, pleasure, (whatever you want to call it), to another person. I come with experience and 5 star reviews.
So how do I write this post without sounding like a needy weirdo... 😬 (Said every needy weirdo ever)...
Well I've put a lot of thought into this and hopefully it comes across. This isn't new to me, and I am comfortable and confident with who I am and what I enjoy. This isn't just a curiosity for me, I've enjoyed being the little spoon for almost 10 years now.
For the most part I've been happily single for a couple of years now. During that time I've been dating casually and had some really amazing connections. But I'm looking for something more meaningful now.
It can be a bit tricky dating someone with that intention though when you are a sub. I want all the first date memories, when the right person comes along. That feeling of electricity as we talk and learn everything there is to know about each other, you know the feeling I'm sure.
BUT... it's obviously also important to me that the other person knows, eventually I might enjoy being made to beg to worship their pussy, or pegged with a giant dildo. And that can be jarring to bring up when sex isn't the only thing we're looking for.
I've tried a few hints on the usual dating platforms, little spoon looking for big spoon, etc etc, but I thought I'd try here too. Where I can be a little more open with what I'm seeking.
I'd call myself bicurious, but I'm not looking to date men. Ultimately I'm most attracted to femininity and enjoy having my face sat on too much. But I am sexually positive and open and understanding of the fact that people don't always fit in a binary gender or sexuality.
For the record I am a cis male but have enjoyed being made to cross dress and wear makeup in the past.
I've had a couple of beautiful connections with trans women, and I'm not close minded. So whatever you look like, whoever you might identify as, if this post resonates with you, feel free to reach out. I promise you'll only be met with respect and kindness. But I can't always promise the chemistry will be there.
And with that being said, I have no unrealistic expectations here. I'm 35 now. I chose to end the opportunity I had to marry and have children, and I wouldn't turn back time to change that. I also understand that anything is possible in the future. Occasionally being single makes me feel a little lonely, but I will always be happier single than trying to force something that isn't meant to be.
As a last few bullet points, I wish it didn't need to be said, but unfortunately it does;
I treat my sexual health very seriously and get tested after every new partner. Always happy to share results and will practice safe sex until you can share results too.
Being sexually submissive doesn't give you the right to treat me like shit, scam me or catfish me. I may enjoy the idea of you humilating me and putting me beneath you, but that comes with trust, communication, consent and respect. Which is what makes it so enjoyable.
I have no interest in paying for sex. I am looking for a relationship, with the goal of a meaningful connection and potentially, who knows, love? I will not pay for the privilege of a conversation, and if you are looking for a tribute or reward so that I can "prove my worth" please don't waste your time. I'm hoping that my worth can be proved through my obedience and submission, inside of the bedroom, and my ability to make you smile and feel happy, outside of it.
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So hopefully this reaches the right person. If any of this interests you, or even if it doesn't, I hope you've enjoyed delving into my thoughts regardless.
It's been quite enjoyable to write too.
I'm looking to date. With the hope that something meaningful and long lasting might come from it. But I'm looking to do that with someone who might like the idea of being my private domme.
After all, cute dates are always more exciting if I feel like you can put my on my knees at any moment x
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