Orgasm control is one of my favorite kinks as both a Domme and sub. Controlling somebody's pleasure can be so powerful and just plain HOT!

Usually when people think of orgasm control, they automatically think of denial. That seems to be one of the most popular kinks. Most of people are actually really surprised when I tell them that denial is a limit of mine.

But wait! How can I love orgasm control but not do denial? Because there is so much more to orgasm control than just asking permission and saying "yes" or "no".

No touch
No touch is when you are prohibited from touching yourself sexually. This could mean just genitals, but it could also mean nipples, or ass, or any other arousing body parts. For some, not being allowed to touch actually makes them more desperate and horny, increasing the need and want to cum. Others can get bored if they aren't allowed to touch. It might be mildly annoying but then "out of sight, out of mind". Varying lengths of time can really vary the effects of this order.

Forced touching
Forced touching is obviously the opposite of not being allowed to touch. Forced touch could mean the act of being in physical contact with your cock, nipple, clit, etc. or it could mean active touching (ie. stroking your cock). The goal of forced touching is typically to increase desire, though depending on how it is used, and the person, it can have a range of reactions. I like to force Jaro to just hold his cock. It can be inconvenient to have one hand tied up while trying to do house work or ... anything really. It can also be frustrating to have to hold your cock, being constantly aware of it but not being allowed to stroke. On the other hand, being forced to actively stroke your clit or use a toy on your clit for a certain period of time, but not being allowed to reach and edge is also frustrating.

Edging
An edge is building up pleasure until you are almost ready to orgasm and then stopping. I personally love edging. I love the feeling of the build, and the ache of stopping. For some, edging is REALLY hard and it can take a long time to get there, and some just can't. Others have an easy time edging. But no matter the person, a lot of creativity can be added to the task of edging. You can choose how many edges, how to reach the edge, and even how long they should "hold" the edge. Edging can be done over days or weeks to build up the desperation to cum over a period of denial, or it can make an orgasm feel so much more amazing after a long session of edging.

Ruined orgasm
A ruined orgasm happens when you tip over the "edge" but then remove all stimulation. Depending on the person, this can have a couple different effects. For me, this makes my body shudder as if I was having an orgasm, but the pleasure is very minimal. Afterwards, it leaves me feeling disappointed and SO sensitive. So I can't typically continue masturbating. It is more mental for me than physical I think. Especially if I spent a long time building up to an amazing release and then it is just wasted. Others may find that ruins will make them even hornier. Honestly I think that ruins are even more evil than denial.

Orgasm permission
This is my all time favorite. When I talk about orgasm control, it is the permission that I am wanting to focus on. Of course I love to be told yes (though the thought of being no turns me on), but knowing that an orgasm isn't guaranteed is hot! There is so much that you can do with orgasm permission: how many edges? what toys? what technique? where? what should you wear? what porn or other aids should be used? Do I need to earn it in some way? There is so much creativity to be had! I love to make people orgasm while singing, or with some form of pain.

Post-orgasm torture
After an orgasm, most people find themselves extremely sensitive. So being told to continue to stroke, or stimulate yourself can be absolutely TORTURE!!! But doing something that you don't want to do only because you want to please your D person, is so freaking powerful - and as the D type, it is freaking hot to watch somebody suffer for you.

Forced orgasms
Some people are blessed with the ability to have multiple orgasms. For some it can just happen immediately after if stimulation is continuous, while others may need a break. Being forced to orgasm over and over can be exhausting and the overstimulation can become painful. Using pleasure against somebody is a powerful mind fuck!

Denial
Not being allowed to cum for a length of time. Some people thrive with denial, they love the tease, the build up, the aching and throbbing, needy desperation, hornyness. My sub has a goal of 1 year of denial (which is over halfway done). For others denial is more of a punishment.

Chastity
Chastity refers to being denied but using a chastity device to keep your genitals locked up. For woman this could be a belt, while men tend to use a cage. This adds a whole different layer to denial. Especially if you have a key holder who literally holds the key to your pleasure.

There are so many different ways to control a persons orgasms. Your only limitations are your creativity and ... well ... actual limits. If some part doesn't work for you, maybe another aspect of it will. And if none of it works for you? That's fine!!! We aren't all the same. But have fun with it because kink should be fun, and HOT!!!