I know the short answer...in person kink events! And we're working on that.

Trying to start flirting and negotiating with people online and work towards planning casual hookups but it's hard to find the right folks.

We're on Feeld and FetLife. Feeld has mostly vanilla folks. FetLife has been a million single men messaging us but never a single (or partnered) woman, a couple, etc.

We're not unicorn hunters. My HusDom and I are interested in the following: MMF, FFM, MFMF, FMMM (aka gangbang lol), group sex / orgies. Absolutely open to poly and partnered people playing with us. We are monogamish and not looking to date - just casual and hopefully kinky sex with others.

Help us out - how do we find options for play partners beyond these aggressive single men on FetLife and Feeld??? Or are we just using FetLife incorrectly...?

We're in the Boston area, btw :) thanks so much in advance!! We're newish to kink (practicing for 1.5 years) and very new to ENM, the apps, etc. Appreciate any and all advice here