I’m bi and in a relationship but am polyamorous. I have been exploring my love of BDSM, rough play, toy-like submission, and CNC for some years now but never outside of my partner . I’ve had this fantasy of what I want my BDSM life to look like but am unsure of this idea is practical, realistic, safe, or just straight up naive. Would love to hear some insight and advice from those that have experience with BDSM and their communities . So heres the deal …. I would like to describe myself as a functional sex addict. I have a full time job that would not allow for this side of my life or activities to be public, but that’s part of the fun. I would love to find a group of people who are the same. People who love rough sex, kinks, porn, and still manage to maintain a non sexual public life. Heres a great fantasy/example of what I’m looking for. A great girl who is a cool friend. We watch great shows, smoke and kick it, and grab lunch, normal friend shit. Maybe after our show ends we 69 or on the way to lunch instead of listing to music we blast a porn video through the car while she’s plays with a dildo in the passenger seat while I drive type shit . Maybe a cool guy friend who likes to watch anime or go to the bar but will fuck my face in the ally before we head out . The perfect scenario is that all three of us are mutual friends that chill and fuck from time to time. No serious relationships just dope friends who fuck. Finding a group of 3-6 people like this with a bomb group chat, clear respect and consent rules, and tight friendships sounds like a dream or a movie. Could this fantasy actually become my life ? Have you seen situations like this work out ? If this is real and could work where would I even begin looking for functional sex addicts like myself? Any advice would be awesome ! Please let me know if my dream of having a weekend long sex fueled and gangbang filled vaca with a group of awesome friends could be a reality !