Hi. I am a masculine and muscular sub male in Southern California. What I am and what I'm not: I am submissive, but not a doormat. I choose submission because I love to please my partner. I am not submissive because I am weak. Submission is not my default. My submission is inspired. I seek the one who inspires it. I am not a sissy, I am not a cuckold, I am not worthless, nor am I a loser. I am very much the opposite. Why would you want anything or anyone that is worthless? I am strong, confident, intelligent and creative. I have a quick wit and a great sense of humor. I seek to be a valued sub and partner. I seek to be someone who improves your life without complicating it. I am a bit old fashioned. Very monogamous and still believe in chivalry. I seek a committed LTR, FLR if that's naturally where it goes. I am not really into degradation and humiliation. I prefer fun and exciting. We should be having fun. Not feeling down. I am realistic, and seek the same. We don't have to play 24/7, or be in character always. Vanilla activities are fun too. I am a normal guy with abnormal (and normal) interests. I love chastity. I love the control. I especially love it when my partner truly enjoys wielding that control. Chastity is the only form of play that can actually be 24/7. I seek someone who can be very selfish sexually and does not apologize for it, nor has any room for guilt. Someone who uses that pleasure imbalance as a form of teasing. And is even turned on by the imbalance and the power to continue the imbalance. I am very functional and very sexual. It is the control that I love. Along with the arousal, frustration, anticipation, and knowing that my desire to please is something you enjoy. I seek someone who enjoys having her pleasure prioritized as much as I enjoy prioritizing it. Someone who prefers that to be a dynamic in the relationship rather than just an element of play. I am a moderate masochist. Nothing crazy extreme. But I do love to be pushed and tested. How much really depends on how much enjoyment you get out of my pain or discomfort. The more you enjoy it, the more I enjoy it as well. I also love the dichotomy of being in pain or discomfort while pleasing my partner. Goes back to the imbalance. You get pleasure, I get denial. You get pleasure, I get pain. I do seek someone somewhat sadistic to maintain this imbalance. But someone realistic enough to not take it too far. Communication is key here. I am successful but I am not stupid. I seek someone to share life with. Not a financial arrangement. I am looking for compatibility, not compromise. If you are really into sissies but will "make an exception" for me, we are not compatible. I won't be with someone who would lower their standards for me. It is just not a good starting point. If it's not mutually beneficial, then what is the point? I have houses in Palm Springs and Big Bear Lake, and split my time between them based on the weather. I am only interested in a real time, face to face, actual relationship. Zero interest in virtual, online or long distance. I can help the right person come here. And I would be willing to relocate if it is a really good location. I am drug free, disease free, have a drink rarely. I try to eat healthy but am not fanatical. And I am in the gym at least 3 days a week, but am not fanatical. Am very muscular but not ridiculous. I make a concerted effort to be desirable. And in the vanilla world I have zero difficulty finding interested women. But I want more than vanilla. Let me know if you have any questions.