Basics: 30s M, Cis, Not asexual but due to a mixture of factors i only prefer non-sexual dom irl atm.

I'll give a hypothetical example for a meeting:

we connect and swap verifications and requirements.

start talking back and forth by text and audio message

do this for a few weeks. maybe months given the pandemic.

working way up towards meeting for coffee. meet for coffee public area somewhere safe where both parties feel comfortable.

ideal would be notifying your friend where you're going heck even having them meet me would be good

especially in this day and age

explicit and implicit consent

after trust is built and expectations sufficient we try for a small scene

find a place where you pull your trousers down to expose your derriere and rest over my lap as my gloved hand spanks you several times in between alternating soothing or harsh or sweet words as per preference while i do it.

hard, sequential, slow and delivered and then we stop.

i have you pull your trousers up and get off my lap.

we sit next to each other

discuss how it felt, what you enjoyed, what i enjoyed, what we'd like to do next spend another 20-30 or so minutes debriefing the scene, aftercares as agreed upon initially and what we got from that.

i'd have a very emotionally articulate person that could articulate their feelings of the act well

and then hug wish each other well and be on our ways to do it again in another few weeks time.

TL;dr: coffee and a hard spanking

What's yours?