I am one of those mythical unicorns that enjoy being intimate with couples. It’s a dynamic that I really thrive in and love to experience. I’ve had a lot of great experiences and some icky ones but I’ve taken it in stride.

I met a couple online through a dating app and we really seemed to hit it off on an intellectual and at times spicy level. They’re a great couple, dreamy in a way and there is some chemistry between us from our talks and video chats. With the holidays and busy schedules we had not really been in a rush to meet up but we are finally aiming to do it this coming weekend with dinner and drinks.

We had a really hot and spicy conversation the other day that was enjoyable for all. But the next day, after we’ve cleared our heads and stuff like that, the wife told me about their rule saying that there would be no penetration what so ever on his part. That was their major golden rule when it came to other women in an intimate meeting, but everything else is fair game. I just said I understood and it was sensible in the moment.

But honestly? I don’t know if that’s something I want to be denied. My fantasy of it, of meeting them, has been ruined by this rule and again I understand and do think it’s sensible, I just feel like I’ve been sort of misled in a sense. I really don’t know where to go and that image in my head has been shattered.

Would I be that asshole for changing my mind and backing out after talking about it for weeks?