I have recently come across a quote that struck a chord for me "Everyone should have at least one witness". I interpret this to mean that everyone should find one partner who knows them exactly as they are. No secrets, no hidden sides, no shame no judgment. It took me some time to come to terms with who I am and what I like. I have been lucky to have found a dynamic in which I was able to live that kind of openness and who in return, opened up to me entirely.

I have always been dominant, and have experience with BDSM based dynamics. I have realised that this part is too important in my life for me to miss out on it. I have a strong view that many of us are just wired that way and that we need to find a good safe way to live that side. My life is good and stable. I have a respectable career and I am in a stable relationship that has become rather vanilla over the years. Against this settled background, there is a clear sense of something missing for me. I want BDSM to be part of my life.

I am trustworthy, reliable and I don't judge. I understand people, I am smart and educated and will offer thoughts and conversation. I have a high sex drive and plenty of the perverse sexual energy and lust that makes this kind of setup worth living for.

I am looking for a woman who ideally is in similar circumstances. Kindness, trustworthiness, reliability and discretion are as important as the burning desire to submit. I would like to find someone who like me yearns for a long deep kinky connection, something that we can live in whatever form we decide feels right. The personal connection is important to me, intimacy makes BDSM so much more fulfilling.

I have many kinky interests, which I am happy to discuss in detail, including control, servitude, humiliation, restraints, impact and mind-play.

You age, experience level or current life situation are not important for me. If you are interested, tell me about yourself, your vanilla self and your kinky self.