I'm a polyamorous Dom looking to meet a submissive woman based in the UK. Ideally you'd be in the Edinburgh/Glasgow area or northern England.

I'm happily married, have a child, and I'm successful professionally. I can and want to be committed and attentive to the right partner, but I also have these other commitments so time and energy have some limits.

My wife is poly as well, but we date separately. She has been on good terms with past partners and is a great metamour. We might potentially all play together, but that hasn't been our model so far and we're not unicorn hunting.

Personality-wise I'm kind, compassionate, affectionate, an excellent listener, intelligent, and work to communicate openly and often. If we spark as I'd hope to, I'm romantic and sweet. I love to get lost in a lover--kissing and touching for long periods. I'm politically liberal and strongly feminist.

Dom-wise, I'm a mix or, as I like to think of it, protean. I like to guide, support, and care for my partner so Daddy-based dynamics can be good. (I prefer middles.) But I also like to be rough, verbally and physically, when playing. I'm not usually one for high protocol, but I enjoy occasional forays and really do enjoy moving in and out of various spaces as the mood strikes.

I don't need us to be 24/7. My preference is for a natural flow in and out of our D/s space according to our mutual needs and wants. If you want a full-time, highly-structured dynamic, I'm not your guy--though I'm happy to support healthy habits. Reasonable levels of brattiness are very welcome. I've got a bit of primal in me so having to conquer you on-goingly (as long as it's fun for both of us) is a plus. I like a partner who balances submission and service with independence and fight. Protean.

I see D/s and kink as a partnership. It has to meet both our needs. We'd share responsibility for our dynamic and the shape it takes. I like to lead and be dominant, of course, but at the end of the day we're equals in a relationship.

You are, ideally, experienced in kink as well as poly/ENM dynamics, quick-witted, smart, psychologically and emotionally flexible, independent, adventurous, and with a good sense of humour.

I enjoy impact play, verbal humiliation and degradation, and bondage in terms of the rougher stuff. All of this is always within reasonable boundaries and with the enthusiastic consent of my partner. It is important to me that my partners feel deeply safe and cared for. If we're more in DD/lg mode, I'll tenderly care for you, shower you with affection, and lots of snuggles and forehead kisses.

Aftercare is, of course, comforting, close, and supportive. I love to cuddle and praise.

I'm not looking for perfection. I'm not, by any means. I am physically fairly healthy and would look for the same in you. Likewise, I am basically emotionally healthy and stable and would expect the same from any partner. High drama or an inability to manage your own life in healthy ways isn’t appealing. I love to support and encourage, but I'm not looking to rescue or fix anyone.

Sexual health is important to me. If you want multiple partners and new partners frequently, we're not a good fit. Ideally I'd like a poly fidelity situation where we have freedom but focus more on safety than variety of new partners. I'm not talking about an OPP or me controlling your sex life. I am polyamorous and support you having healthy connections, but I prefer a smaller, stable polycule.

I have nothing against partners younger than me, but I think someone within maybe 10-15 years of me probably makes the most sense in terms of building a healthy dynamic. Certainly open to folks my own age and older as well. It's about the person more than the birth date.

In the right emotional setting I can be switchy but that isn't common. I mention it here in case you are a switch yourself and might want to have some of that in your life as well.

If you think we might connect, say hi and we can chat. I'll want us to get to know each other before any kink stuff happens. Again, clear consent is important. I won't act all dominant until it's clear it's what we both want.

I'm not looking for casual hookups. I'm looking for real connection and I think the best kink and sex come from that depth.

If you've read all that, you might as well say hi. I'm a good guy who will say and do some horrible things if we both enjoy it. Thanks.