Hello and thank you for showing interest in this post. I am a white, bearded, cuddly (dad-bod) and experienced Dom. I like a woman to submit to me in a way that gives me control of a their sexual pleasure and to use that control to provide long and intense orgasms. I enjoy and delight in using all manner of techniques and kinks to see a woman beg and grovel for sexual release. I like to control and manipulate her sexual need to turn her into a dripping, submissive mess, taking ownership of her orgasms to making her my sexual slave.

While I am, at my core, a Pleasure Dom, I am also a mild sadist, using a kinky mix of pain and pleasure to help build arousal. I enjoy using pegs, clamps, wax, ropes, paddles, whips, floggers and a cane (when extreme pain is needed and wanted). However, the pain is always combined or followed up by the use of toys, fingers, mouth and cock to make sure your submission is suitably rewarded. So, I would want you to have masochistic tendencies and enjoy some or all of the pain/pleasure combinations. I especially love orgasm control and denial and would expect you to let me have complete control over you in that aspect of your life. However, I will expect an in-depth and honest conversation regarding both limits and kinks to make sure all play is consensual and desired.

Ideally, I would like a relationship that involves D/s as a primary dynamic. The sexual submission would be for the ‘bedroom’ only but also for the dynamic to bleed into other areas of the relationship. I wouldn’t expect it to be all encompassing but you should be comfortable with wanting me to take the lead and provide control within a loving, caring, romantic and nurturing partnership. I like aspects of the free-use, Master/slave, and TPE/1950’s Household dynamic and I would want to discuss and find a suitable balance to our D/s dynamic that would involve us adapting and developing our own version of them. However, it would be indoors and between us only. To friends and family we would appear to have a happy, loving vanilla relationship.

My general dominant demeanour is calm and controlled but firm with my instructions and commands. I am not prone to shouting or aggression so I find most subs feel comfortable to call me their Daddy, however I am not in to age play and have the usual limits of blood, scat, needles, knives etc. I do not like dealing with ‘brats’ so please don’t waste your time if you identify as one. If you do decide to get in touch, and as mentioned above, I will expect there to be a clear and honest discussion regarding your kinks and limits before moving on to meeting each other and any play can be considered. If all you are after is some JOI and a quick wank then please kindly move on. I am very serious about this search and I will want you to be too.

Ideally I am looking for a woman aged between 38 and 50, but that is not a deal breaker. However, I am unlikely to be comfortable forming a relationship with anyone younger than 34. I am also child free and have a place of my own (I will be able to host in a month or two once my lodger moves out). Please also be child free and not be interested in having children (I appreciate it being a big ask but I am not interested in starting a family or competing for your time should you have children already). I will want the relationship to develop to a point where we will meet regularly so please live close enough for a real life romance. And also be prepared to share face pics soon after your introduction message. Mutual attraction is important, so I think it fair to say at this point, as much as I enjoy all shapes and sizes I am not going to be interested in anyone who has BBW body type. Curves and a womanly figure are sexy AF, though.

With all that said, if this post resonates with you then please do get in touch. And I appreciate you reading this far. As a way of knowing if you have read the full post, please start any chat with the identifying word “blue”.