Hi!

I'm a polyamorous Dom looking to meet a submissive woman based in the UK. Ideally you'd be in the Edinburgh/Glasgow area or northern England. I'm fine with a fair amount of online relationship but I want to be able to get together regularly.

I'm happily married and successful professionally. I can and want to be committed and attentive to the right partner, but I also have other responsibilities so time and energy have some reasonable limits.

My wife is poly as well, but we date separately. She has been on good terms with past partners and is a great metamour. We might potentially all play together, but that hasn't been our model so far and we're not unicorn hunting.

Personality-wise I'm kind, compassionate, affectionate, an excellent listener, intelligent, and work to communicate openly and often. If we spark as I'd hope to, I'm romantic and sweet--even a little goofy. I love to get lost in a lover--kissing and touching for long periods. I'm politically liberal and strongly feminist.

Dom-wise, I'm a mix or, as I like to think of it, protean. I like to guide, support, and care for my partner so Daddy-based dynamics can be good. (I prefer middles.) But I also like to be rough, verbally and physically, when playing. I've also really come to appreciate and value service-based subs. I'm not usually one for high protocol, but I enjoy occasional forays and really do enjoy moving in and out of various spaces as the mood strikes. I'm open to trying most anything that comes within safe, sane, and consensual.

I don't need us to be 24/7. My preference is for a natural flow in and out of our D/s space according to our mutual needs and wants. If you want a full-time, highly-structured dynamic, I'm not your guy--though I'm happy to support healthy habits and some daily tasks if it works for us both. Reasonable levels of brattiness are very welcome. I've got a bit of primal in me so having to conquer you on-goingly (as long as it's fun for both of us) is a plus. I like a partner who balances submission and service with independence and fight. Protean.

I see D/s and kink as a partnership. It has to meet both our needs. We'd share responsibility for our dynamic and the shape it takes. I like to lead and be dominant, of course, but at the end of the day we're equals in a relationship.

You are, ideally, experienced in poly/ENM dynamics, quick-witted, smart, psychologically and emotionally flexible, independent, adventurous, and with a good (and dark) sense of humour.

I enjoy impact play, humiliation and degradation, and bondage in terms of the rougher stuff. All of this is always within reasonable boundaries and with the enthusiastic consent of my partner. It is important to me that my partners feel deeply safe and cared for. If we're more in DD/lg mode, I'll tenderly care for you, shower you with affection, and lots of snuggles and forehead kisses. If we have some basic compatibility we can discuss our kinks in more detail.

Aftercare is, of course, comforting, close, and supportive. I love to cuddle and praise.

I'm not looking for perfection. I'm not, by any means. I'm an average to good looking fellow. I am physically fairly healthy and would look for the same in you. Likewise, I am basically emotionally healthy and stable and would expect the same from any partner. High drama or an inability to manage your own life in healthy ways isn’t appealing. I love to support and encourage, but I'm not looking to rescue or fix anyone.

Sexual health is important to me. If you want lots of partners and new partners frequently, we're not a good fit. Ideally I'd like a poly fidelity situation where we have freedom but focus more on safety and connection than variety of new partners. I'm not talking about an OPP or me controlling your sex life. I am truly polyamorous and support you having healthy connections, but I prefer a smaller, stable polycule.

I have nothing against partners younger than me, but I think someone within maybe 10-15 years of me probably makes the most sense in terms of building a healthy dynamic. Certainly open to folks my own age and older as well. It's about the person more than the birth date.

In the right emotional setting I can be switchy but that isn't common. I mention it here in case you are a switch yourself and might want to have some of that in your life as well.

If you think we might connect, say hi and we can chat. I'll want us to get to know each other before any kink stuff happens. Again, clear consent is important. I won't start off being dominant until it's clear it's what we both want.

I'm not looking for casual hookups. I'm looking for real connection and I think the best kink and sex come from that depth. Interested in exploring tantra and conscious kink.

If you've read all that, you might as well say hi. I'm a good guy who will say and do some horrible things if we both enjoy it, but youll feel cared for and respected when we're done. Thanks.