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35 [F4M] #UK #England #West Midlands cheeky BBW good girl sub seeking long term IRL controlling yet nurturing Dom
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absurd_urchin is a female age 35 looking for a male in United Kingdom
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Hi I’m Sally!

You might want to make a cuppa. This is long.

I am 35 years old with dark blonde hair and blue eyes. I’m 5’2” and a BBW, monogamous and single. I’m open, honest and genuine.

I’m looking for a controlling, imaginative, protective and nurturing Dom for a long term, IRL relationship. I want all of someone and I want someone that wants all of me - vanilla me, kinky me and bratty, silly, subby me. I am currently at a bit of a crossroads in my life and need someone understanding of that.

I have a ridiculous sense of humour, often dark as fuck and I like banter. Oh, I swear a lot too.

Rules and tasks make my subby little brain brain very happy so I’m looking for something more than bedroom only kink. I thrive with structure.

I am submissive and I slip into that headspace easily. But, I love to brat - I like to gently push a few buttons. I live for a smirk and a whispered “you little shit”. I am a playful brat but a good girl at heart.

I understand there is a time and place for bratting. I respect my Dom’s limits in the same way I expect them to respect mine. Consent works both ways, ya know?

As corny as it sounds, being submissive is absolutely a part of me. Due to 🌟life🌟 I had a very long break from kink but fell right back into it like I’d never left.

Top kinks - Trust, honesty, openness and consent. Yes, yes, I know. Not exactly kinks but welcome to the internet, it’s 2024. This shit does need saying. Additionally, I do not consent to a pic of your cock. Believe me, that also needs saying.

Actual kink kinks, sexy kinks, the hot stuff, the things you’re really here for - Control, ownership, rules, being overpowered, praise 🌟, degrading, face slapping, hair pulling, body writing and marking.

No, that’s not all. There’s no fun in giving it all away before we’ve spoke, is there? Don’t worry, I’m not keeping back anything too extreme. I’m also a big fan of affection, cuddling, kissing and gentle touching. RisquĂ©, I know.

What I’m looking for


Non-negotiables An honest, open and excellent communicator. You must be age 35 . A Dom with a good understanding of kink/BDSM/D/s dynamics/brats. You must be single and monogamous. Incase it wasn’t clear, I am a BBW and you need to be ok with that.

Preferences (NOT musts) - Big guys - dad bod, rugby player build, BHM . 6’ (in case it needs clarifying, this is 6 foot , as in height) is also a bonus. I’m a sucker for a beard too.

I am ND which often affects in some pretty weird and wonderful ways. It would be helpful if you have some understanding of that, are ND yourself, or willing to listen and learn. If you are of the opinion “vaccines cause autism” - please see yourself out.

As much as I love being bossed around. I do not expect a potential Dom to do everything. I take an active part in negotiations and creating rules/tasks. We are equals
 until we aren’t. I am honest and open always.

I am happy to exchange face pics, verification pics and a full kink list once we’ve chatted for a little while and established we click. As much as I need kink in my life - it’s incredibly important to me we have a genuine, out of kink, connection.

I will ignore any low effort first messages, I spent fucking ages typing this up. If all you’ve got is “Hi, how’s you?” I’ll assume you aren’t serious.

Tell me about yourself - things you love, things that you hate, your favourite smell, your favourite song, a deranged fact, how you’d survive a zombie apocalypse - anything! And if you make me laugh
 well
 “putty” and “hands” spring to mind.

If you’ve made it this far - thank you! Please include “green” in your initial message so I know you’ve actually read this and you’re not sending me the same copy and pasted message you send to every single other submissive woman on this sub. I deserve better than that, we all deserve better than that.

I know what I’m looking for, I’m very clear about that and I have no interest in fucking around or pursuing something with someone who isn’t looking for the same.

I am a human, I feel deeply and have an infinite amount of submission (and love) to give. If you’re looking for someone to fuck around with for a couple of weeks and then discard, please move along. This is not for you.*

My hard limits - Scat, extreme pain, degrading words about my body/bodyshaming, being ignored as a punishment, non consenting people, animals, extreme “taboo” including, but not limited to, incest, murder, removal of limbs, decapitation, etc.

I’m not looking for - Anyone under 35 or outside of the UK. Dick pics, cheating husbands/partners (Greg from Burnley who claims to be single. Yes, I see your post/comment history. I see you posting in the “affairs” and “deadbedrooms” subreddits looking for “discreet meets” and bitching about your wife. No, I don’t “wanna chat”.), one night stands/casual dating/hook up, endless sex chat/online roleplay, NSFW pic exchanges, bedroom only kink, anyone that isn’t over their ex and someone with “no limits”.

*if you get the book reference you’ve made my day and earned yourself a place at the front of the queue, dude.

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