Hi everyone. I’m a 40-year-old man based in Yorkshire, England. I’m single, never married, with no kids, and I’m looking to meet a younger, submissive woman for a relationship involving spanking.

The kind of dynamic I’m looking for is partly an old-fashioned one between a man and a woman. One where I take the lead and am head of the household, providing protection and support and guidance for my partner, who in turn looks up to and places her trust in me. A relationship where I help my partner to be the person she wants to be, including by setting rules and boundaries and enforcing them with spankings. Communication and overarching consent are key though - this is something we’d need to work up to slowly and by mutual consent. I’m a caring, loving guy and not a sadist, so it’s all about approaching things in a way that works for us both.

I love spanking for fun / foreplay too. It helps to reinforce the dynamic between us. The ritual of spanking is also really important. Warning you that you’ll be spanked if you misbehave, sending you to the bedroom to wait for me, standing you in front of me and scolding you, placing you over my knee, removing your clothes as the spanking progresses to your bare bottom, and cuddles and reassurance afterwards.

For some reason, I find shyness and nervousness attractive, and I like to provide guidance to the girl I’m with, as well as emotional support and reassurance, lots and lots of cuddles (especially with my partner sitting on my knee), holding hands, physical affection, and forehead kisses. I love to look after my partner and make her feel safe, and I think I’m pretty good with people who are on the shy or anxious side, or who are nervous because of inexperience. I don't mind if you have no experience at all - I'm happy to gently take the lead and guide you. There are elements of DDLG here, but I’m not into the age play side - it’s more about a naturally quasi-paternalistic role.

Other than that, I’m also looking for someone who is submissive in the bedroom - but again this is something I’d expect to develop organically over time as we get to know each other; it’s not something to rush into on day one. So I’m looking for a girl who dreams of finding a man who will patiently and carefully take the lead with her, and to whom in due course she will want to give herself completely. I’m not a bully or a whips-and-chains kind of guy. It’s all about subtlety and the psychological connection, about you choosing to be submissive to me because you’ve grown to trust and respect and (in time) love me, not me beating it out of you. (Although if you’re a little bratty or naughty from time to time, you will of course find yourself over my knee!)

Although I’ve started with the kinky stuff, that’s just because it’s the hardest thing to find. It’s also important that any relationship works in normal ways. I would expect us to take our time getting to know each other so we can build trust and understanding before moving to anything physical.

In the normal world, I’m 6ft tall, about 175 lbs, slim, and in decent shape (with blue eyes and dark brown hair). I’m intelligent, well-educated, attractive (or so I’m told!), and successful. I have my own house and car and a great group of friends. I’m honest and genuine, and I value integrity and a sense of right and wrong. I’m naturally a bit reserved, but also sociable and adventurous. I tend to see the lighter side of life and think that laughing is often the most important thing. I like to spend time outdoors (camping and walking), I love reading and quiet nights in, and I often watch films and TV series and go to the theatre or to see live music with friends.

I tend to be attracted to slim/petite, feminine women who like ‘traditional’ roles and activities. You’ll probably be in your mid to late 20s or early 30s, but for the right person age shouldn’t be a barrier, so don’t let age stop you contacting me (adults only though, obviously). I’d love to meet someone intelligent, caring, sweet, genuine, and loving. Someone curious about the world, who dreams of meeting a man she can grow to trust and respect.

I’m not looking to have children, so if that’s a dealbreaker then I’m not for you. (It’s not that I don’t like children - I have a good reason. Just ask and I’ll be happy to explain.)

If it sounds like we might get on, drop me a message or a chat request. I’m happy to make friends on here too, so if we’re not compatible due to distance etc then feel free to say hi anyway.