New-ish to the city , new-ish to the scene. On a self exploration journey to figure out my sexual pleasure. Looking for a Dom (an actual dom) who will not allow me to think and can put me exactly where he wants me. Someone who likes the side of me that wants to resist sometimes and willing to tame me. Submission is not natural to me - i don't have the desire to serve.

Probably on the vanilla end of the spectrum, not sure I like pain or degradation - it doesn't appeal to me as much - but i enjoy people's genuine kinks..what feels like a part of them and natural to them aand not something that they need to put on.

I do enjoy scenarios of power difference, taboo and other things but haven't really ventured into that coz I just haven't been in a relationship with that level of trust and comfort. I've been on the edge of the scene but still very much a novice and would like someone to show me around, guide me , be patient with me.

Orgasms are....elusive for me. I'm not sure if it's physical, mental or I'm just dehydrated and depressed? Maybe a combination. Which is incredibly sad considering how much of my brain is occupied by thoughts of this. So this is a part of the search, 'the journey to O' haha

Recently tapping into my more sensual side - interested in tantric stuff maybe? Massages are a great way to ease into things and foreplay is more than 3 step routine. Enjoy toys and would like someone who knows how and wants to use toys on me.

Me: Brown, pear-shaped,curvy,5'2, thic af

Attraction is subjective and incredibly important - I'd liketo be exactly your type , it's fine if I'm not - just not interested

Not incredibly great at communication but working on it, but would like people who are intuitive and pay attention when i do communicate

I enjoy connecting beyond sex, it would nice to have common interests but not always necessary. Aftercare,affection,intimacy - all very necessary.

I'm not looking for an online match, and not looking to endlessly text - would like something intentional, on going , convenient/close by - and someone who has time (if we are a match). I'm not necessarily looking for LTR relationship (not unopposed if it works out), but probably not the right fit for people looking to 'settle down', also not looking for dominance outside the bedroom, so not your idea tpe candidate.

I'm easily spooked/or just put off - so would like genuine responses - not impressed by sexual bravado, humility is hot