You are looking for a Dom to train you and guide you on your submissive journey at a steady pace, who is understanding and patient. Vanilla just doesn't work for you anymore! Importantly, you are looking for a D/s relationship with an older experienced warm natured Dom, who has a great sense of humour? You are after a genuine relationship. You may have limited experience but you have had enough to unlock a curiosity to want to explore deeper your submissive identity. This Dom can help!

You are aged18 - 40, average build, warm face, you are either married ( you looking for more in a boundaried safe way) or single but you must have time to invest around your vanila commitments. Connection, exclusivity, intimacy is important to you. You must be prepared to meet up for real once we are comfortable with each other online. In addition, this D/s dynamic will meet the needs of girls with high functioning autism, who may be shy/nervous/anxious or have other mental health or ND issues who want a Dom to lead the connection until they are comfortable and ready to ask their own questions and be themselves. It would be good if you have a safe/ private space even if its a bedroom. This dynamic will best suit someone who wants to take things slow and build that intimate connection.

You are looking for a D/s dynamic with clear routines, rules, daily tasks, structure, discipline and a dynamic where the Dom has full control over you within agreed limits and boundaries eg. Jobs, family, friends, etc. You crave a firm, strong, confident Dom/sadist to guide you through your journey. Personality of your Dom is most important to you.

You have many kinks including: impact play, restraints/ rope, blindfolds, gags, nipple torture, rough sex, anal play, edge play, fear play, breath play, CNC, eye contact/speech restrictions, orgasm control, denial, sensory deprivation play, psychological play and more. In fact you have a masochist personality.

More about me: I am a Shrek (well I am a good looking Shrek in my delusional mind), I am a 55 year old gentlemen, 5.8 tall, dark eyes and olive skin, who is fit, diligent, loving, respectful, caring, hardworking with conservative views and dad bod. Disciplined in my own life, with strict values so ideally positioned to lead and inspire your feminine needs. I have a good attitude / character with defined goals for myself so I can help mentor and coach you to set and achieve your goals for growth whether these are physical, emotional, mental or sexual kink. I have a strict sadistic streak. I am strong both physically and mentally. I am a professional person so boundaries will be tight and I will respect yours. You will also need to be comfortable that I am partnered. This may help you feel safe knowing this as I will understand your boundaries and you will know where I have been. But to be clear this isn't a problem for me. If its a problem for you then please don't respond to this ad with your views. Frankly, I am not interested! I am comfortable in my vanilla partnered relationship sitting alongside my Dom/ sub dynamic with you. You will still get my exclusive attention around our boundaries.

I have many hobbies and interests. I enjoy gym, travelling, reading, walking, coffee, street art, true crime and just binge watching a series of netflix etc. I also enjoy sports, the beach, parks, etc or just having a good old fashion conversation about anything really.

Important bit: I see the dynamic as under pinned by safety and consensual trust built over time.

I live in Hampshire, England so initially online with a view to meet in person as the relationship dynamic develops. I am happy to keep it online if you are outside UK for the right person.

Lets start a slow burner and explore how you feel about submission: your desires, needs for kink, punishment and pain. Lets talk about your goals, training needs, goals, safe space, routines, protocols, structure, expectations, hard and soft limits, kinks and non negotiables, rewards, punishments, bondage, pain, rituals, role play, edging or general sexting, etc. Are you clingy, needy or bratty no problem I will not make you feel bad about this. Bratty is my Oreo cookie.

I am as interested in your vanilla life (work, hobbies, interests etc) as your sub/ masochist life. I hate ghosting so you will need to be available to chat during the day and night depending on our boundary limits. Hope to hear from you soon. If you see this ad then know I am still looking but as soon as I find my sub who I start a dynamic with it will be taken down.