What am I looking for? 

A needle in a haystack; more specifically a woman in a haystack. 

I am 6’3, fit, (profile) and classically handsome. I have a professional job and would be the last person my friends would expect to be here or enjoy the things I do. I am a 40 MM and looking for someone in a similar situation who understands discretion is important. I love to chat and share about my normal everyday life and prefer to use telegram once we establish some type of connection. To enjoy the fun things, building a foundation of trust and emotional bond is extremely important to me. I put a lot into my kids and for the most part am a normal soccer dad. Shuttling around, enjoying learning who they are as people, and trying to be the best person I can be. I love to laugh, and you should too. I am generally happy. I am not looking to change my situation or yours, I am looking to compliment both of our lives. I love music and dancing and am happy one of my children got that from me as we can rock out together(in our shower only voices as neither of us can sing but we sure do try.)I love true crime and random podcasts. How To Be a better Human, American Scandal, Slow Burn, Casefile, a few examples. I love to be active and sports. I enjoy learning about wine and the details of a region. On a day with no responsibilities (do these ever occur?) my day would be spent drinking my coffee outside, nothing on, just enjoying the morning sun and outside, a workout lift or run, sometype of community activity in the area or farmers market ( who doesnt love honey sticks?) a nice patio lunch with likely a sandwhich. Afternoon relaxing, reading, maybe a couch nap or a show I have put off too long to watch or get caught up on ( my lists seem to only get bigger, never smaller on streaming services), and a nice dinner and drinks maybe some dancing and kareoke or live music where we can decide what the rest of the night holds.

You generally have a bubbly personality or just a generally positive disposition. You are likely a very type A in your personal and or work life. You either have experience in this world or something has been calling to you and you are looking to explore and scratch that itch with someone you can trust and get to know over a longer-term connection. You enjoy being somewhat fit (let’s be honest, on a date we are likely getting tacos or pizza and likely beer or wine as we talk the night away and get lost in conversation). Speaking in gifs is a language you are fluent in and you have a higher libido and want to share the non-sexual side of yourself and might be able to express things you haven’t told or explored with someone else. I want to know about your latest rabbit hole and you enjoy having a guy who enjoys seeing your outfits and appreciating what you bring to the table as you.

I have a tenacity for intellectual stimulation. In the BDSM world I enjoy wielding the brain as its own sexual organ. It is so powerful, creative, and can, in most cases, provide an incredible gateway to release and expression not possible elsewhere. I am looking for someone who is on the sub missive side and is open to that intellectual mind play. It’s a place to provide safety and trust and to be free and allow you and I to be ourselves at out core. I live in the Dominant world but if I had to categorize myself it would be a mix of a caring and daddy dom. I enjoy being freaky and kinky as fuck, however snacks and stimulation outside of sex are equally important to me. I want to know you for you. My primary love language is physical touch. I am looking for someone who also has this trait. I am ferocious in the bedroom and want to be craved and desired as much as i crave and desire you. Not quite an obsession but we both enjoy the yearning and aching the other provides. Its

In terms of Kink, I love ass play. Touching, feeling, seeing, grinding, kneading licking fucking, all of it. I have some more taboo side of kinks which happen to be water sports. It’s part of the power exchange dynamic I revel in. It’s not a must, but know I am open to it. Would never pressure you into it, but gives you an insight into where I can go, I suppose. I enjoy using words to describe and paint a picture in your mind. I am likely to leave a voice memo for you to listen to and give you instructions to find a quite place, close your eyes and listen to me as I explain instructions or tell you about something I think is important or want to hear you opinion on. I enjoy using my voice as almost an erotic voice yoga.

I enjoy degradation. I love seeing a woman who has all the power in her daily life being instructed to do something she would never do in her day to day, but in the quest to be a diligent “good girl” and obey, there is a literal struggle for her as she fights that internal battle. If you know you know in this aspect. Its part of that intellectual aspect I enjoy. You might enjoy writing as I like to understand the why behind you. Why do you enjoy that? What makes you tick? I am looking to invest in someone.

If you think that someone, is you, please reach out. I look forward to hearing from you my woman in a haystack.