Hi there,

I am 40 married. Not looking to change my situation.. looking for someone who is in similar situation or someone who understands rather than judge. I have met few redditors online, but never got where i wanted to be or LDR didn’t work for my partner, so always decided to mutually end things. I am looking for a female partner, with whom i can develop a meaningful connection, talk anything and everything, be attracted to physically and emotionally, make her feel wanted and make myself feel wanted, appreciate and get appreciated and much more. Online only if you are outside of NA. Possibility of meeting IRL if you are in Canada or USA. Definitely IRL if you are in Ontario/Quebec or GTA. Here i am to fill that void.

**ABOUT ME**

**Physical stuff:** I am 39, 6’2”, around 210 lbs, athletic build. I am not gym toned, i do not like gym i get my exercise from running and playing couple of sports that i like, which helps me keep in shape.

I am based on the east coast and am usually available through out the day and would like someone to talk to while i go through my work. (I might be busy somedays so need someone who understands what’s important for me sometimes). Would love to put you to sleep every night, listen to your rant about your day, discuss the positives and negatives, give the attention you need and take back the attention I deserve. I am basically looking for someone with whom I can be me and you can be you.

I am an ambivert, with majority of my life being an introvert. That’s doesn’t mean I do not talk or cannot carry the conversation. I love to talk, but with the right person when there is a connection and bond. Once I connect and there is not stopping me from talking.

**The Good Stuff:**

I love to talk a lot, and i would expect the same from you.. i really enjoy an intelligent conversation, could be on any topic. It would be perfect if you love to talk, and are a chatter box :)

I love love language - my biggest love language is quality time. My time is split between my family, my work and myself. All my me time is what I would like to spend with you.

I love that i always try my best to reach my goals! I will be always there to support you to reach your goals. I want the control, but I want to empower you to be your best. Let’s say there will be rewards and punishments.

**Kinky stuff:** This is not what we would be discussing in our first conversation, but i thought of putting this here so that you know a bit about my other desires. I like some form of bdsm dynamic, and vanilla romance at times. You could expect me to be rough at times and be clingy at the same time. Then i like nipple play, breast play, lite bondage, spanking, orgasm control/denial, edging, (big on edging and orgasm control) oral (giving and receiving), punishment and praise, dirty talk (being naughty whenever we get chance). I love discreet public play, giving tasks, setting rules, and thinking of creative ways to keep my sun on the edge, horny and desperate. I would expect my sun to contribute if she has ideas. There could be more as we talk and explore each other. Also I am really big in aftercare. With the right partner I would love to explore TPE, CNC, M/s, wax play, anal and few more.

If you have toys and remote control toys which you can give control of to me, that would be a plus.

If you are looking for a seasoned Dom, then I would say look away. Ever Dom is different and every Doms doming style is different. I believe I am always learning. I am constantly reading and trying to learn more and more. I believe I have gained experience and confidence to operate as a dom in the lifestyle but i will also be always on the learning curve. With the right partner that Journey would look just awesome.

To disscribe my dom style in short, i would say I am dominant, with bit of Master, I can be a soft pleasure dom at times where I am focused on pleasing myself by pleasing my sub, and then I can be a Master who wants total control, sexual and non sexual, though it may not be 24/7.

**About you:**

**Physical stuff:** You are well-groomed and takes good care of your health and fitness. You are smaller than me. Be 30 or above (Age is not a hard limit as long as you are mature and can have a good conversation).

**The fun stuff:**

Emotionally intelligent

looking for long term online only to begin with

loves to text or get on a call and have long conversations.

Clingy.

you are ideally between 30 and 42 (No hard limit on age as long as you can have a conversation)

What i look for in you would be to include an adventurous, responsive personality, a good sense of humor, ability to hold conversations, strong intellectual sense, creative, and interest in all variety of kinks.

**The Kinky stuff:** you are a submissive, or an alpha submissive. You ultimate goal is to give up control and pleasure your dom. You are in the most of the kinks I have mentioned above and willing to explore more. You are new or have experience in the lifestyle. You have your privacy. You are willing to learn and resonate with my thought process about my dom style. You are okay with my current situation. And you are not afraid to become vulnerable in the lifestyle.

I do see lot of girls in here are not into video and pictures, i understand that privacy is important and i do not ask for videos or picture, but you might want to okay with getting on voice calls with me. And please do not be a ghost. If you need me time then just communicate and things will be fine.

I am okay with chat or DM on reddit, however, after talking here for some time, i would like to move to a more comfortable platform.

This was long, but if you are who i am looking for you probably at least didn't completely hate reading it, if that’s you, message me, if not, you should probably message me anyway, so i can fix