Wanting to explore as a submissive bottom learning more specifically what I like within a long term relationship dynamic. It would be nice to have an area of my life where I can take a break from over analyzing. I can find an intense space of calm when being guided or led. Though, don’t mistake that for me not having my own mind and ideas.

I see online dialogue as starting with getting to know each other to see if we have similar interests. I want to see how things flow, and whether there is emotional and value based compatibility before considering anything more. I am looking for someone who enjoys good conversation. Beyond that I would expect the dominant I am looking for to have previous kink experience in real life, be educated in informed consent and value their own as well as a subs physical and mental safety.

My own life is in transition, I’m living at a slower pace than you might expect. Taking good care of myself helps me work towards my goals. I am able to put attentive effort into conversations but at times my energy levels vary. I expect the same level of interest, dedication, conversation, emotional maturity, and clear consistent communication that I give. I would be invested in a dynamic that allows for us both to take care of our own daily obligations.

You would be around my age. Not married or in a relationship and have a stable life and job. You would be someone who is a dominant by nature, and found your way to bdsm because of that, but it’s not your entire life. You know how to put someone in their place firmly but gently, sometimes roughly. I would be interested in someone who would not be afraid to take the lead if I am more tentative, or give me a gentle nudge backwards if I become too focused on the kink side of things. You would have good sense of witty sarcastic humor, but are also someone who finds beauty in resilient humans. I’d hope you’d value an intellectual connection as well as mutual attraction within a body positive mentality.

I am very able to be a source of compassion. Doing emotional work in any kind of relationship is a necessity and asset. If I am with someone, I give my whole heart to them while speaking up about my own needs. I want to make sure whomever I am with is feeling loved, seen, and satisfied. I would expect an understanding that we are both valuable human beings. I am interested in knowing who someone truly is, their interpretations of the world, and to make them feel wanted as if I am only focused on them.

I consider myself an introvert with ambivert qualities. I am lovely mannered, kind and giving, but I can be irritable when my mental or social limits have been reached. I have a visual love for bold sensational color combinations, unconventional architecture and old lettering styles. Reading and traveling of any kind often help me feel free. I also appreciate quiet nights at home, good movies, and have a great fondness for animals. I most enjoy creating a living space that is a visually clean and layered representation of myself. I enjoy walking, even in the rain, often especially because of it.

If your basic respect and safety values in bdsm online or in person align with this quote from “The New Bottoming Book- “ by Janet W. Hardy and Dossie Easton - “Normally you have a bubble’ of protectiveness you put around yourself to prevent yourself from being physically or emotionally hurt. When you agree to top someone, you’ve just agreed to put that bubble around you and your partner for the duration of the scene.”-

AND you’ve read this through. We may be a good match.

Send me a thoughtful message (I WON’T RESPOND TO CHAT REQUESTS) that shows vested interest, and I’ll reply. I can be hesitant until I get to know someone, patience is appreciated.

*Edited to specify age range seeking*