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Hi! We're a kink-focused Fwb couple who’ve been exploring together for over 10 years, and now we’re hoping to find the right person to join us on this wonderful sexual journey we've been on together.

Over the years, we've spent countless play sessions developing a deep level of trust between us in order to safely and confidently explore our various kinks & fetishes, and we'd both like to share our experience, knowledge, respect, care, and (above all) pleasure with someone who's a good fit and wanting much more from a reliable Fwb type of relationship.

We both originally came into this with only a little bit of "good" experience with kink play and, while we've come a long way since then, it's important to say that we don't have any major expectations up front for a new partner. Whether you’re a complete newbie just turned on by a newly discovered kink, or a seasoned, experienced kinkster (maybe even more so than us!) that's fantastic too. We're both super friendly and open to helping you ease in safely and confidently.

Our kinks: We've tried quite a few things across the kink/bdsm spectrum together. There’s a lot we've liked a lot that have become staples of our sessions, others we enjoy less but still dive into occasionally, and then some we've just both agreed weren't worth the trouble or flat-out disliked. In all cases, we keep an open mind and are always willing to try new things, retry old things, and (most of all) eager to fulfill each other's fantasies and desires. Overall, a summarized list of our general play often (but not always) involves some mix of:

• blindfolds
• gags (ring & ball-type)
• nipple clamps
• light-medium impact play
• penetrative toys (primarily dildos, but also anal plugs and hooks)
• prolonged edging
• bondage (rope / restraint / harness)
• device bondage
• forced orgasms

All of that on the table, we also often just really enjoy regular, passionate sex (both the slow/sensuous and rough/hard varieties) and we're good at it too :) While we’re apart, we often tease each other over chat and enjoy sending one another links to kinky porn, which we can also share with you to give you an idea of the type of kink play scenarios we look at for inspiration.

Our hard limits: nothing that leaves permanent or semi-permanent visible marks or major bruising, no blood/piss/scat/shit, no extreme pain, no full asphyxiation, and no e-stim/shock play.

Her: 42, latinx, petite-fit, with dark hair & eyes, a-cup, trimmed or shaven. She’s a true submissive with some rare, fleeting dominant interest from time to time. She particularly enjoys being tightly restrained, teased, and forced to repeatedly orgasm with a blend of spanking/paddling, choking, nipple suction & clamping, and hard penetration with clitoral vibration. She (obviously) loves receiving cunnilingus, but isn't sure how she'll feel about giving it yet. In this potential ongoing threesome, she loves the thought of her clit and nipples being licked/sucked while getting fucked, and can’t wait to introduce strap-on play (both giving and receiving).

Him: 40, white, tall/strong, average-fit, with blonde hair & blue-eyes, circumcised bwc, trimmed and/or shaven. Verified vasectomy-safe! Dominant by nature but always open to reversing or switching roles. He's a selfless lover that particularly enjoys bondage with nipple play. He has a big fetish for sexy lingerie, stockings, heels, leather harnesses, etc., and loves to pick something out for every play session. Nothing gets him off more than making her (you:) cum and will do whatever you like that it takes to achieve that, especially endless cunnilingus. In this potential ongoing threesome, he’s particularly excited to for strap-on play for her as well.

Us: We've gotten to know one another very well and have developed an immense level of trust, caring, admiration, and respect in the years we've been doing this together, but we're also both employed professionals with real private lives outside of this relationship that we keep very strictly separate. We're both university-educated with multiple degrees between us and we're both politically progressive-minded liberals. We both enjoy cannabis, both recreationally and/or medically. We're both in decent enough "hwp" shape and exercise on-and-off as needed. Neither of us are gym nuts or have immaculately "sculpted" physiques, but we're both traditionally attractive people (whatever that actually means). We're human. We're sane, aware, and constantly strive to approach our relationship in a healthy way and we're vocal about anything that might happen in a way we don't like. We're completely open with each other about everything that has to do with us, our feelings, desires, kinks, etc. and we approach any and all sexual interests with an open mind while absolutely respecting each other's limits. It's important to note that in our discussions of adding a third person to our play, we both think that while neither of us necessarily identifies as bisexual, we're both very open to and excited about the possibilities that the involvement of a bisexual or trans woman playing with both of us brings to the bed.

You: Age and race are wide open. We'll leave it up to you to decide if reaching out to us is appropriate and we'll definitely consider a wide variety of factors. As far as our expectations are concerned, as a baseline, it's important that you be both open and eager in giving and receiving all pleasure with both of us. To put it plainly: we both want to fuck you as much as be fucked by you, in all senses of the term. This is an exploration for us as well, so certain limits or reservations may arise as we explore, but we'd like to at least start with an open-ended approach. We do both agree that we need to be physically attracted to the person joining us (as we assume is the same for you) so no hard feelings in either direction if that doesn't line up. We expect you to take as good care of yourself as we do ourselves; no more, no less.

Due to the nature of this type of relationship and it's potential negative effects on our personal/professional lives, we've decided not to share a photo in this listing and would instead prefer to first connect on the basics we've written about extensively here. Therefore, we'll also leave it up to you to choose to send a photo right away or not, but please be sure you describe yourself at least as well as we have ourselves. We'd also like to hear about your experience level, expectations, desires, fantasies, and/or limits, all of which will be received with care. The more descriptive the better - get us excited! Also, while we didn't list it in the title to avoid unwanted messages, if you're part of a couple that's looking to play together with us, we're completely open to that too.

Safety/Responsibility: This is SUPER important to us so please read and understand before deciding to respond. As a blanket statement, we expect anything that goes for us also be true for you, no exceptions. If this relationship is going to be as successful and pleasurable and wonderful as we'd like it to be, we'll need to develop the same trust with you as we have between us, so there's no room for uncertainty here. We are both completely and (borderline) obsessively clean, hygienic, and we're absolutely STD/STI-free and refuse to take any risks to change that; the same must be true of you. We don't use condoms for vaginal penetration.

Finally: we don't know you yet and you don't yet know us. For all you know, "we" could be anyone and a vice-versa. This type of online activity is inherently risky for all parties involved until we do know each other so we'd like to approach this process in a way that's safe and effective for all parties involved. For example, if we make it past exchanging messages and photos and are ready to meet, we'd like to do so in a way that's comfortable for all of us. Moving forward, while we usually play at Her apartment in East Lake View, a mutually agreed to hotel room will probably be best for (at least) the first time. Beyond all of that, we're ready, open, and willing to do whatever it takes to make you feel safe and secure in this process, so don't hesitate to speak up or make a request.

Ok, that's it. Hope you made it this far before hitting that reply button (and honestly it'll probably be pretty clear if you didn't). We've put a lot of thought, care, and effort into this post so please reciprocate accordingly if you really care about being taken seriously. No need to write a dissertation, but don't be vague either. We're open to answering questions in the comments, but a direct message is really the preferred way to reach us.

Looking forward to hearing from you and, in an effort to curb ambiguity, we'll do our best to reply to everyone!