ABOUT ME:

It's time to give this ad a 2025 update.

I've added the disclaimer at the end as I didn't want to set a negative tone. So, I've decided to end it on a negative tone:

About me: (Vanilla)

I'm a writer and future (hopefully) author.

One of my main passions is cooking. I have a natural love and a flair for cooking. I spend a large portion of my life in the kitchen.

Cooking has always been intuitive and really natural to me. I can't bake worth a damn, though.

Recently I've been trying my hand at spice mixes. At this point I've created a Jerk mix and a Cajun mix.

They're actually really tasty. Tasty enough for them to label them as "complete."

I'm currently working on a BBQ Fajita spice mix. It's getting there. It's a work in progress.

My Curry BIR mix has been a work in progress for ever. Same with the BBQ Fajita mix, It's getting there.

I briefly trained as a chef. Then I didn't.

I'm a deep thinker. I'm spiritual (NOT religious) and believe in the power of Chi. I believe in ghosts, Vampires and Werewolves (what's life without whimsy), dimensions, multiverses.

I'm into meditation and self-improvement and self analysis. I'm a free-thinker and tend to think independently from the masses. I naturally deviate from convention and tread the path less trodden.

Honesty is a virtue. If you don't want an honest answer, don't ask me a question.

I'd rather be hated for who I am than be loved for someone I am not.

I'm not a people person. I'm misanthropic. I can't stress that enough. I tend to connect better with "weird" people and people who deviate from "normality."

I'm an introvert. I'm private and I don't like being the centre of attention. In fact, I like to keep as far back from people and the spotlight as possible.

The darkness is my friend.

I'm a geek. Always have been, always will be. Back in the 80s and 90s there was much more chance of me being in the company of my Amiga, Spectrum, Master System, Mega Drive and Super Nintendo than a human being.

Not much has changed.

People talk about a "misspent youth." I spent my youth with celebrities such as Sonic the Hedgehog, Mario bros, Link and Zelda, Ken, Guile, etc.

I consider my youth to be spent wonderfully. I am privileged.

I don't really care about distance. I mean, let's be honest, the chance of meeting a compatible soul is improbable, if you consider geography and location road-blocks, then the "improbable" becomes the "impossible". Besides, it's 2025, not 1725. Distances can be bridged with the aid of heavy machinery.

It takes a while to properly forge a strong relationship: It requires pillars of: respect, trust, honesty, compatibility, and communication. None of those things come easily or without dedication, conviction, and time.

I'm a sapiosexual as well as a demisexual. I find intelligence very, very hot! Saying that, I'm not necessarily looking for a woman who is in MENSA. Intelligence comes in all shapes of sizes.

I require a mental, emotional, and spiritual bond before I can ponder a physical relationship.

I love "Star Wars", "Buffy the Vampire Slayer", "MCU" and "Harry Potter".

I'm not a social media person. I'm antisocial socially and antisocial social-medially.

Social media, and society in general, is full of anger and hate and toxicity. Everyone has opinions about everything. Everyone feels entitled to judge and belittle and edit everything and everyone.

Life is short. Time is precious.

I would much rather work on self-improvement. I would rather elevate myself than edit and judge and denigrate and dedicate my precious tearing apart strangers

My communication method of choice is emails. With emails, you're able to convey mass amounts of information and details without interruption, therefore making the "getting to know you" process relatively quicker than short burst of texts on IM.

I'm deep, introspective, pensive, and morose. I feel more at ease and happiest when I'm alone. I barely tolerate people.

Movies: Fright Night 1 & 2, The Lost Boys, Nosferatu (1922), Interview with the Vampire, Dracula (1931), Buffy the Vampire Slayer, Shadow of the Vampire? Barefoot in the park, Breakfast at Tiffany's, My Fair Lady, Casablanca, Jerry Maguire, Serendipity, Say Anything, Almost Famous, Breakfast Club, Ferris Bueller's day off, Weird Science, Elvira: Mistress of the dark, Elvira: Haunted Hills, Dirty Dancing, The Big Sick, Star Wars (The original trilogy), Firefly.

Television: Buffy the Vampire Slayer, Angel, Crazy Ex-Girlfriend, It's Always sunny in Philadelphia, Wednesday, Seinfeld, Curb Your Enthusiasm, Sex and the City, The Simpsons, Scrubs. South Park.

Author/Writer: Jane Austen, Edgar Allen Poe, Bram Stoker, The Bronte Sisters, Emily Dickinson.

Music: The Smiths, The Cure, AC/DC, Classical music, Score.

ABOUT ME: (Kink)

I'm very much into TPE. I want a dynamic that is 24/7, everlasting, all encompassing and forever flowing and growing.

I'm not into "keeping it in the bedroom/behind closed doors", as that's too much like roleplay with an on and off switch and it's way too low energy for me.

No matter where you are or what you're doing, I want our dynamic to be swimming in your veins. Talking to you. Making your chest heave and your veins pulse as it journeys through your blood stream, pumping and pumping through your veins, resulting in the beating of your heart.

My form of Dominance is one of psychology.

It's my belief that before you can conquer and control a body you must first take infiltrate the mind:

I want to know how you think, I want to know how your mind works, what you love, what you like, what you hate, and what you dislike. I want to know about your formative years, your upbringing, your parents, your family, etc.

I want to know about your experience as well as your dream dynamic. I want to know what turns you on, what your limits are and how willing you are to expand your horizons and how adaptive and open minded you are, etc.

A good relationship is all about growing together. It's all about learning and maturing and discovering new kinks as one entity, it's also about cultivating existing kinks.

This dynamic will be a living, breathing organism. It'll grow and develop and mature. It will be 24/7. It'll be all consuming, and it will be a life choice. A life lived together. Forever.

At work, you will be my submissive. At the supermarket and at the mall and out in public, you will be owned by me. Your every breath will contain a whisper that I own. Every thought will contain a note that I control.

It will be all-encompassing.

You will learn from me, you will be taught, I will sculpt and mould and nurture you and train you to be the greatest version of yourself that you can be.

I'll listen. I'll be your coach. I'll be your teacher, your mentor, your confidant, your protector as well as your best friend.

I can not stress this enough. For a D/s dynamic to work, it has to be built on friendship. There must be unbreakable trust and respect. This is formed with communication, and compatibility. Every cylinder must be firing. Every molecule must be engaged.

We will be a team. We will listen, talk, laugh, share and learn from the other. Our bond will be stronger than any metal or element known to God or man.

This isn't an easy connection to develop. It takes honesty, trust, communication, and absolute dedication and faith. Come into this half-hearted, and it will not work.

It's a fact, that a decent percentage of people who are in high stress and powerful jobs will look to de-stress and unwind by shutting off and allowing a Dominant to take control.

So yes, i would say that, ideally, I'm seeking a woman who is a captain of industry. Someone who wields power.

This isn't a requisite or a deal breaker. It's just a very nice twist.

My main kinks are Goth and watersports.

The Goth thing has always been ingrained in me. I've always been morose and introspective and I've always been attracted to those qualities in another.

Edgar Allen Poe has always been my muse: A Raven, my spirit animal.

I grew up being attracted to Morticia Addams, Elvira and Vampira. I still am. Now that Wednesday has become legal, I've added her to the list.

I would enjoy a walk and a picnic in a cemetery (probably by candlelight) as much as normal people would would like a walk and picnic in a park.

My Goth kink and Vampirism kink are linked.

I'm expecting a whole swarm of people to jump aboard the Vampirism train, soon, as a direct result of the recent success of "Nosferatu."

I suspect that'll be akin to the wave of vanilla people taking a peek into the world of BDSM, due to the popularity of "50 Shades of Grey."

Just know that I've had a Vampirism kink since the 80s/90s.

I suppose, both kinks are intrinsically linked. Both involve bodily fluids. Both are intimate and intense and both aren't exactly what you'd call common and normal.

Both kinks are taboo. Both kinks have been with my since I can remember. Both are extremely intimate and intense and sensual.

Sharing a body elixir, be it urine or blood. A most private fluid that rests in your body. A fluid that belongs to only you. A more intimate possession you could not own. An elixir that you are chosen to partake in, either by drinking or by wearing. Or, to give that honour up to another.

It's a sexually hedonist act and the most private and intimate act a couple could partake in.

Thinking about it, all three of my kinks are intrinsically connected.

Feel free to ask questions about the aforementioned kinks.

My kinks: Watersports, Vampirism (Hematolagnia - Blood) psychological Dominance, fiscal Domination, Goth, taboo, skull-fucking, rough fucking, anal, CNC, rape play, bimbofication, food control, body modification, behaviour modification, body writing, deepthroat, TPE, chains, leather, outfits, DP (with dildos, etc), toys, edging, tasks.

In essence, I'll be as rough as I'm allowed to be. I have few limits.

Hard limits: Poly and scat.

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Disclaimer: if you initiate contact with me you have to be thick skinned.

I don't initiate contact. If you initiate contact with me, please do so with as much substance and length as I've put on this post.

If I receive a substandard message or a message which contains few words and/or which is low effort, I can't promise that I'll reply. Nor can I promise that I won't put a curse on you.

I don't tolerate low effort messages.

Those type of message will not end well.