So this probably won’t really be a novel. But, it will be long. For those that care and want to stop reading early, I am an African American Dom with a bit over 10 years of experience in kink and interest long before that.

I have tried the dating apps and the single friends of friends and… what feels like everything. I know I don’t want to start another relationship with establishing a dynamic? Something as part of the foundation. I want a relationship, I don’t just want to try to find a sex partner and it all lives and dies in that arena.

So about me, I am a nerdy guy. I have nerdy interests. I play video games, I watch anime, I like fandoms and all that. I also go to the gym. I do comedy. I love going to the movies. I have plenty of interests and can go out or stay in without issue. If you talked to me you’d never know I had any affiliation with kink, most likely. All that to say I’m sure we’ll have something in common but also please be a bit nerdy/a gamer yourself.

What I’m looking for. So kink wise I’ve done the 24/7 I’ve done the TPE. I would be interested in finding something close to that again? I am pretty sure lol. I don’t want to look for something specific then find something else that works that I could have had sooner if I wasn’t so rigid. I DO want sex (lots of it lol) and kinks surrounding free use and service be part of the dynamic. I’ve never done free use so it’ll be a what works for us. I don’t think there’s a one size fits all for kink so it’ll involve lots of conversation, communication, and consent (big one here).

On the flip side of that I want a partner that will sing 90s and 2000s bangers with me. Be silly and goofy when we’re out on the town but still ready for sex at a moments notice lol. I want us to be on the same wavelength about living as best we can being good decent people to the general populous.

But I also want to have SEX. I know my partner can’t be waiting by the door on her knees EVERY day when I get home from work because she’s living life herself, maybe had a bad day at work? Got stuck on traffic on your night to cook dinner so I’ll cook instead? Life happens and relationships should be fluid. Both kink and vanilla aspects.

In short, I want a real relationship but with a kink foundation. But I don’t want to shy away from the fact that I want to f*ck like rabbits as often as humanly possible.

Anyway, message me of any of that resonates or you’re interested lol.