I’m 42 years old and live in northern England. I’m looking to meet a younger woman for a monogamous, long-term domestic discipline relationship.

The Relationship

I’m looking for a partner who shares my love of traditional relationship dynamics. A relationship where I take the lead and am head of the household, taking responsibility for big decisions and providing protection, support, and guidance for my partner, along with strict but caring discipline when it’s needed. A relationship where I help my partner to be the person she wants to be, including by setting rules and boundaries and enforcing them with spankings. Communication and overarching consent are key - this is something we’d need to work up to slowly. I may be strict, but I’m not a sadist, so it’s all about approaching things in a way that works for us both.

Spanking will be a big part of the relationship, both for fun and for real discipline. It’s a big turn-on and helps to reinforce the dynamic between us. The ritual of spanking is also really important. Warning you that you’ll be spanked if you misbehave, giving you ‘the look’ that gives you butterflies in your tummy, sending you to the bedroom to wait for me, standing you in front of me and scolding you, placing you over my knee, giving you a sound spanking on your bare bottom, and lots of cuddles, reassurance, and forgiveness afterwards. And of course when you do behave well, you’ll receive a lot of praise!

For the avoidance of doubt, while the majority of the spanking and BDSM community seems to be focused on casual encounters and the “performance” of roles, for me this is not a performance; it’s a part of my sexuality and personality and needs to be at the core of the relationship. It’s not something that we just do in the bedroom and it’s not something I’d ever do casually. And I’m not into degradation or humiliation or anything else extreme.

I’ve started writing spanking stories, and there’s one on Reddit you can find via my profile (scroll to the bottom of my post history). If you like it, it’s a good sign we’ll get on!

Who I’m Looking For

I tend to be attracted to women who take care of their health and fitness and who are in decent shape. I don’t mind your age, but would prefer you to be younger than me (adults only, obviously). I’d love to meet someone intelligent, caring, sweet, genuine, and loving. Someone with her own interests and friends. Someone who takes dating and relationships seriously and who is not (and has never been) into casual encounters. Someone curious about the world and who dreams of meeting a man she can grow to trust and respect. Although I started with the kinky stuff, that’s just because it’s the hardest thing to find. It’s really important that any relationship works in normal ways too. I would expect us to take our time getting to know each other so we can build trust and understanding before moving to anything physical.

I find shyness and nervousness attractive, and I like to provide guidance to the girl I’m with, as well as emotional support and reassurance, lots and lots of cuddles (especially with my partner sitting on my knee), holding hands, physical affection, and forehead kisses. I love to look after my partner and make her feel safe and secure, and I think I’m pretty good with people who are on the shy or anxious side, or who are nervous because of inexperience. I don't mind if you have no experience at all or if you’re not sure what you’re looking for - I'm happy to gently take the lead and guide you.

About Me

In the real world, I’m 6ft tall, about 175lbs, slim, and in good shape. I’m single with no kids and I’ve never been married. I’m intelligent, well-educated, successful, and attractive. I live alone and have my own house and car and a great group of friends. I’m honest and genuine, and I value integrity and a sense of right and wrong, but I also tend to see the funny side of life. I like to spend time outdoors and I also love reading and quiet nights in watching films and TV series.

If you’d like to chat, please send me a chat request and introduce yourself (or just say ‘hi’ if you’re not sure what to write!).

I look forward to hearing from you.