I’m just divorced and posted an ad on a popular dating site. Rhymes with hatch bot rom. My challenge is this and you may share it: I feel a strong, passion filled sexual dynamic is as important as the mental and emotional connection with a partner as each builds off of each other. If I’m pushing your face into the couch and fucking you hard, then we’re also laughing together and holding hands on the way to the grocery store.

And after a short experience on the dating site, I’ve realized I’m not going to find this trio for a relationship on a normal site and removed my listing after two weird interactions. So this is a long shot.

I’m looking for someone who is also looking for all three - Dom/s dynamic (and more kink if you prefer) and passionate sexual connection that grows, relaxes and intensifies like a living thing. I’m looking for an emotional connection - I am open, emotionally mature and looking for someone able to have a deep and trusting relationship and is open to expressing themselves however they want, as a woman. Finally, I need that mental connection. I’m witty and intelligent - went to a top school, run an organization, am driven and confident - my mind cranks all of the time - so I’m looking for someone similar who enjoys deep conversations about anything, can verbally play and brings energy, interest and ideas to the party.

So yeah, this is a long shot.

I’m mature and easy going but still have things to do in life. I know how to support someone mentally, emotionally and physically based on your interests. There’s never judgement and having two people open and excited about pleasing each other across the board - balanced by life - is what I’m seeking. I love the deeper connection and passion/desire between a man and woman - that primal link - balanced by a caring and kind relationship where we’re both thinking on similar levels.

I have no kids but am open to someone who does.

I look and act younger than my age. I’m open to slightly younger, looking for younger and energetic but not too young. I’m looking for something long term if short term works out. Long term to me is not claiming someone and locking someone in but growing to understand each other and proactively be there seeing the other person and sharing in moments together.

And I’m not in a hurry but who knows who reads reddit. I can live on an island in a lighthouse if need be. If this post is live, then I’m looking.

I’m 6’3”, with full head of hair with deep blue eyes. Some have said I’m attractive. You be the judge. I’m strong from lifting heavy weights. There’s some dadbod for sure - but I don’t have any kids. So is that nokidsbod? I’m into health to stay young and active. We should have some aspects of this in common. Sure, I’ll have the martini at a nice steak restaurant and down some edibles before a movie but I generally gravitate to a healthy approach.

I love good conversation. You have to be good at this and shy people are great at this. I’m very considerate. I give energy to people in the form of encouragement, support, understanding and hope. I’m looking for someone who knows how to do the same thing so we can recharge each other’s batteries naturally.

Preferences? Fittish. I like the curves of a woman. A woman who is feminine, submissive and intelligent. Nice breasts. A woman who knows how to wear a dress and heels at times. I’m classy. I’m into being open with my partner to mutually build the sexual dynamic and love the intensity and primal passion of a Dom/s connection based on trust and understanding needs and limits. It’s about you being able to express yourself and if me putting you over my knee for a spanking is exciting to you, then there’s never any embarrassment and we will explore. There are some limits with some of the more extreme things.

But who knows…

I’m looking for someone who has their bases covered. Good job, balanced, no major on-going life situations filled with chaos. Someone who isn’t slave to their job and work travel; I’ve seen this movie and it ends in divorce. Someone who isn’t a snob and has a balanced ego. If not, then I’m happy to put you over my knee.

I’m open on culture and religion of a woman who lives in the Chicago area. I live in the city, successful professionally, own my place and have a nice life with a tight circle of friends. I’m happy at home as much as I am going to dinner with friends. I’m decently traveled and would like to experience more but spending money and doing extracurriculars doesn’t define me.

This is enough to see if there’s anyone out there who may want to explore this and chat. Reach out. Tell me your age and location and something about you. I look forward to learning more about you. Again, if this post is live, then I’m still looking. I can’t imagine this to be a fast search.