Hey there!
I'm a 32-year-old guy living in Oregon, between Eugene and Portland. I'm looking for someone to explore a femdom lifestyle with. Over the years, I've realized that being a sub is where I feel most comfortable. I've always been the type to be a caretaker, often putting others before myself. It took some time, but I eventually realized that I love taking care of my person more than anything else.
*Oh wait... this is starting to sound like a caregiver ad... let me switch this up... ;) *
Hello again!
Have you ever wanted a tall guy who is really good on his knees? Have you ever wanted people to look at you and think, "Damn, she's lucky. He's handsome and caters to her." Well... here I am! (Hello there! Third hello, wow, so excited to meet you.)
So let's talk about me!
I’m 6'3" (yes, really), white, with brown hair and blue/green eyes. I weigh 165 lbs (tall and skinny). I'm entirely open to sharing a picture if you'd like. I'm very open-minded and have a few kinky friends who have shared their darker sides with me, only to be surprised when I wasn't phased at all. We’ve got one life—let’s get weird.
I’m going to cover some of my overall kinks and then really get into what I’m looking for and what you can expect from me. I hate to be so kink-focused, but given the context of where this is being posted, I think it’s appropriate. If you’re new to this or don’t have much experience, that’s okay! I can guide you and help you embrace being the badass woman we both know you are. Feel free to message me, and we can talk about it.
I have a good amount of experience in the kink world. I'm not a pro or anything, but most of my relationships have had some kink element. It’s important to me that we communicate well, that we’re open with each other, and above all else, that consent and respect are always present.
Here are some things I have experience with and love:
- Chastity: You just can't have a good boy if he's not locked up. Being teased while being unable to get hard is just the WORST/BEST thing on the planet—by far, bar none.
- Worshipping You: Do you have self-esteem issues or insecurities? Not with me around. I will tell you daily what an absolute Goddess you are. I will kiss your scars, I will kiss your ego, I will kiss you all over. I’ll make sure that, to one person on this planet, you are the single greatest thing in existence.
- Humiliation: When a woman I utterly worship tells me I don’t deserve her, it makes me want to try even harder. I enjoy other forms of humiliation as well. With trust and consent, I know you adore me and are just teasing me harshly for fun, and that's perfectly okay with me.
- Cuckolding: This is a hard maybe. I have some experience with this, and while it was hot, the situation was a bit weird. If it’s something you’re interested in, we can talk. If not, that’s totally fine too.
- Mommy Dom: Let me clarify—this is not age regression related. There’s just something stupidly comforting about sucking on my woman’s nipples and being told I’m a good boy after a hard day. This is not a requirement, so if it’s not your thing, don’t sweat it.
I’m open to much more—this is just what I have a pretty decent amount of experience with.
What I’m Looking For:
I would like a woman around my age, somewhere in the 25-35 range. I’m open to stretching that if the vibe is right.
Above all else, I want someone I can learn and grow with as a couple and a team. I’m going to keep this kink-focused, though. Our compatibility as a couple can be seen when we talk and get to know each other, so I’ll let that lie for now.
I’m looking for someone who can be confident, enjoys taking the lead, and can discipline me when necessary. I really thrive when there’s someone whose dominance I can live under and feel safe with.
It’s also very important to me that you reciprocate the love I give. While I love giving and worshipping, I really hate feeling like it’s all for nothing. A selfish Dom is never a good Dom. If I give you everything and you give me the bare minimum, it’s not going to last.
However, a Dom who calls me a good boy, texts me that she appreciates my devotion, and wants to cuddle my face later—that I love. There’s a massive difference between the two.
Ideally, you’re someone who appreciates both the mental and physical aspects of dominance and finds satisfaction in crafting experiences that challenge and push boundaries while also providing a safe space for exploration.
I’m looking for a partner who values an active lifestyle and prioritizes their physical health. I’m especially drawn to those who are fit or have a slender build. While I appreciate that everyone has their own unique beauty, I’ve found that I connect most deeply with someone who shares a similar dedication to fitness and well-being.
I want to be upfront that physical attraction is important to me in creating the intense connection I need to fully embrace my role as a sub. It’s not about being shallow, but rather about ensuring we both have the chemistry that makes our dynamic truly fulfilling.
What I Offer:
I’m a fun-loving guy who enjoys being active. I spend a lot of time outdoors with my dogs, going to parks and hiking. I also enjoy wakeboarding, paddleboarding, and rock climbing. I’m a positive person who loves to explore the beauty of Oregon, and I’d love to share that with you. Afterward, we could tie me to a tree and…oh wait, off tangent. Focus!
Alright, so back to the kink stuff. I’m attentive, eager to please, and dedicated to ensuring your comfort and satisfaction. Whether it’s through acts of service, physical attention, or simply being there to support you, I’m committed to creating a dynamic where your pleasure and well-being come first. I can’t stress enough how much I love being a good boy.
I’m also fairly intelligent and take pride in my ability to have thought-provoking conversations. Having someone who can mentally challenge me as well as physically is hugely important. I’d like to think that I can do both—or at the very least, I will always try to do both.
What I’m Not Looking For:
I’m not looking for anything extreme. No ball-busting, no extreme pain, no bathroom stuff, and no non-consensual play—just all the basic stuff that I think 99% of us agree on. I’m also not at all interested in financial domination (Findom). This would be a safe and equal relationship when it comes to finances.
How to Say Hi:
If you’re interested, I’d love to hear from you! Please send me a message telling me a bit about yourself—your interests, what you’re looking for, and any questions you might have. Feel free to share what attracts you to the dynamics I’ve described and what you’re hoping to explore.
Let’s start with a conversation and see if we click. If we do, I’m open to meeting up in a safe, public place to get to know each other better before diving into anything more intense.
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