Hi there. I am a masculine and muscular chastity sub. I am seeking an outwardly normal relationship with an outwardly normal woman because I am a very normal guy, with abnormal (by society standards) interests. Nothing crazy, dangerous or illegal. Just some good old fashioned kink. Mixed into a relatively conventional relationship. I do have very normal, vanilla interests as well and seek a like minded woman.

I'm not a slave, not a sissy, not worthless, and not a loser. And not a cuckold, I am very monogamous. I choose submission not because I am weak. But because I truly enjoy prioritizing the pleasure of my partner. I do not need micro management. I would much rather have someone tell me what they want,  than give me orders. I prefer the opportunity to make my partner happy because I want to. Rather than because I was ordered to. Tell me what you want, and allow me to make it happen. I seek someone who is comfortable communicating their wants and desires because my mind reading skills are amateur at best.

I call myself submissive because I have no interest in dominating a woman or being in charge in the relationship. I call myself submissive because I love chastity. But I do not look or act like a typical submissive. I appear more dominant than a submissive. I carry myself more dominant than submissive. If I wanted a traditional "man of the house" type of relationship, I would have more options than I knew what to do with. But that's not what I want.

My ideal relationship is committed, and long term. Real time, face to face. An in person relationship, and very monogamous. I'm a bit old fashioned and still believe in chivalry, manners and courtesy.

I don't play casually. I only play within a relationship. And developing that relationship has nothing in common with what is portrayed online and in porn. I will not give you the keys on the first date. There will be no pegging on the first date. Or anything else portrayed in the porn, fantasy version of this lifestyle. I realize reddit is probably one of the last places to find someone/something real, but I will explore all options to find what I am looking for.

My ideal relationship is realistic. Kink when the mood strikes, with vanilla filling in all the gaps between kink. Realistic, comfortable, and mutually rewarding. A collaboration. While deferring final say to my partner in vanilla life. But 100% submissive in kink. And chastity woven into the relationship 24/7. You will always have the only say on when the cage comes off, IF the cage comes off. And how long in-between unlocking.

I would love to meet someone who absolutely relishes that control. Who is perfectly comfortable being a cruel keyholder when the mood strikes. Just as she is fun loving or teasing. A strong, confident woman who is comfortable with her control and doesn't allow herself to feel guilty about getting what she wants. This is why it is so important, and been so difficult, to find someone who matches wants and interests closely. If you want to take what I want to give, we should talk.

I have many vanilla interests, movies, museums, music, etc. Physical activities, biking, hiking, tennis, racquetball, gym, etc. Am very open and easy going. I lift weights 3 times a week, eat healthy most of the time, zero drugs, drink very rarely. Not fanatical, but reasonable.

Kink interests are just as varied. But I do have that special interest in chastity. I seek someone who enjoys having that control as much as I enjoy giving it up. Chastity is only fun for me if it is fun for you. I have several stainless steel devices, and am secured with a pa piercing. When you hold the key, you have total control. I seek someone who appreciates my level of commitment. Takes advantage of it even. But most importantly, has fun with it. I am a moderate masochist, not extreme. I enjoy variety. Strict play, sensual play, teasing play. Light play, and at times have my limits tested. Bondage, impact play, cbt, etc. Variety.

I am entirely comfortable with my desires. I don't require aftercare. I'm not using kink as an outlet for emotional problems. I am very stable emotionally. I don't need to be punished because that is all I deserve. I don't care for humiliation, or degradation. I prefer play to be uplifting. I prefer fun. So should you. Kink is not my therapy. I just truly enjoy a strong, confident woman. Some like to cook, some like to eat. Put those two different people together and you have a mutually beneficial situation. I like the bottom, and I seek someone who likes the top. Mutually beneficial.

I am very functional and very sexual. I do not use chastity to mask any physical issues. I love the control, and a woman who loves that control. I am well versed in short term and long term denial. I am prepared for whatever you decide or desire. For me, denial is not denial. It is extended anticipation, and extended arousal. I know some do not handle those well. I do. It is something I love. If you are sexually selfish,  without any guilt, we should talk. More so if you have fun with it. Fun is the recurring theme. As is mutually beneficial.

I am intelligent, creative and have a great sense of humor and a quick wit. Am successful and have everything but someone to share life with. I'm not looking for a financial arrangement. I'm looking for a relationship. Not interested in cyber, virtual, video chat, or anything that isn't real and in-person.

I am a quality person, my wish is to improve someone's life, not complicate it. I am not needy. Don't require constant attention. I do my best to be more fun than trouble.

I have a house in Palm Springs and a house in Big Bear Lake. I split my time between them based on the weather. So I don't have to deal with extreme heat or extreme snow. Best of both worlds.

If our interests don't align, I will respect your choice, as I would hope you would respect mine. I will never pursue anyone that is not a potential partner. So feel free to engage without risk or pressure. I am well versed in all the scams. If that's what you're here for, you'll be wasting your time. You'd be better off with someone who hasn't heard them all before.

Until there is some commitment or understanding, I will speak to you not as a sub. Just a regular guy. Don't hesitate to ask if you have any questions or need clarification.