Dom Build - classic middle age dad variety. To wit:

White collar job? Check. (Health care intervention for kids with special health care needs.)

Weird dad hobby? You bet! I'm a fairly accomplished leather worker who makes everything from fancy purses to even fancier handcuffs. (insert your favorite innuendo laden emoji here)

Well read and articulate? Annoyingly so, perhaps. There's a room in our house called "the library" which houses roughly a thousand volumes, and we regularly have to refresh it to bring in new material.

Steady, confident, and largely unshakable? Absolutely. I'm an emotional guy, but those emotions are well attuned and healthily regulated.

Non traditional modifications to the standard middle aged dad Dom Build:

Lefty feminist upgrade. I enjoy power exchange and kink play in well defined play areas, but I only play with partners who clearly understand the absolute equality between all gender identities outside of playtime.

ENM enhancement. I mentioned this in my header, because I think it's important to put that on front street, so to speak. I have a primary partner (we've been together for 20 years), I'm not looking for another one. I'm open to a new kinky friend, but if you are hoping to find your forever life mate, I am not the Dom you are looking for.

Maker mod. I not only enjoy restraint and impact play - I design and make my own toys and restraints! Always wanted something custom fit to your body? I could make it for you.

Build Specifications:

The slightest of ticks under 6 feet tall. I always want to round up that half an inch, but I know in my soul I'd be lying.

Blue eyes. Closer to sky than ocean.

HWP. A little extra weight after baking my way through the last 4 years, but not a lot of extra weight.

Long brown hair that's just about to my chest when it's pulled straight. Grey is starting to creep in.

Closely shaved beard that is, let's be honest, more grey than brown at this stage.

Under the Hood:

Experienced. I've worked with subs both online and in person, and have helped folks new to kink figure out their subby vibes and find their pathways into BDSM play.

Rangy Dom styles. I am not primarily a Daddy Dom, although that's in the wheelhouse (see "Big Dad Energy" below). I can roll anywhere from high protocol to brat tamer. I lean more towards praise orientation most of the time, whatever the framework. Should note: Brat taming is fun, but may involve more of a time commitment than I currently have available. We'd have to discuss the particulars.

Big Dad Energy: I used to shy away from the Daddy Dom label, but started embracing it a year or so, because it is undeniably in my wheelhouse. I'm not into age play, and regression is definitely not my thing. But I radiate kindly/stern caregiver energy, so... why not lean in, to borrow the modern colloquialism.

Kinks include power exchange, praise (giving, I don't care to receive it much), bondage and restraint, light to moderate impact play, and adoring objectification. Over the years I've learned that I'm open to a wide range of other kinks, as well. There's not a lot I'm unwilling to try. I do have hard red lines around blood, permanent harm, intense degradation, and most things involving the bathroom.

Open to a range of ages, but nobody young enough to be my kid or old enough to be my parent, please. mid 20s and above, mid 50s and below. I'm Pan, but my last several play partners have been masc, so I'm looking for someone more on the femme side this time.