Hello 👋

I am a 35yo woman, coparent of 1, located in the Caribbean (open to you visiting, it's a bit harder for me to travel but not impossible) and I'm looking for an online connection that can evolve into one centered around intimacy, vulnerability, laughter and transparency.

I cant offer an exclusive dynamic however I could commit to: - ~2hrs of voice call/video/uninterrupted texting up to 2x/week after work hours - some texting during the day otherwise a check in/some kind of contact at least every other day - I should note that I dont always respond right away. We can agree on a rule about how quickly you need me to respond if you deem something pressing.

I tend to yearn for more frequent contact than the above during the first few months of hitting it off, especially so with a Dom who welcomes (rather than just tolerates) my bratting and lg preferences, especually within the first few months of meeting. We can also discuss what your boundaries are around handling NRE.

My favourite kinks include being slapped, verbal degradation, spitting, praise, choking and the adrenaline rush/fear/anticipation of being punished... There's so much peace after I've done wrong and it's been absolved with punishment, and Dom has restored order and everything is right with the world again 😊.

I really enjoy punishments that are just a twist on how we usually engage in our play. As a sub I'm hypersensitive to my Dom's tone and reactions so being called a useless whore in an angry and disapproving tone when I've broken a rule (vs as degradation during sexual play), or being forced to orgasm for Daddy because I've been naughty (vs forced to cum till I drop from pleasure) are pretty serious and effective punishments in my book.

Nevertheless, I'm open to trying out other common or creative punishments for rule breaking cuz ya girl is down to learn.

My current fantasy is being locked away in a dark room for the weekend with no awareness of time, to be used at my Dom's pleasure - free use, degradation, shibari, impact play, getting and leaving my face all messy while I keep getting fucked...

At best, I could use some guidance and help with snacking less 🤭, and being more disciplined with my yoga practice. I'm generally happy with my life and my job. I do thrive on meaningful (reciprocal) conversation and I'm open to some emotional support eg one of us is having a rough time and we agree to commit 30mins of safe space for advice-free venting.

I understand you'll have to kick ass with the vulnerability, care and emotional availability as a Dom, especially for aftercare. I try to make that easier for everyone by making the effort to be as specific as possible when asking for emotional support and attention. And communicating when I'm not happy with something that was said/done.

I'd prefer a Dom who's just as emotionally expressive, is able to requeat aftercare and communicate needs without blame or criticism, and talk about what was hard or uncomfortable for them as well.

I'm black, mom bod, 5' 2", fluctuate between 125-135lbs, not very active although I lovee outdoor activities. I'm serious about therapy/mental health, and I love therapy-related podcasts, shows and forums so I'm always investing in that form of self-care. I smoke weed to chill, drink socially and love artsy-type events. The beach is one of my favorite places to be! I'm fascinated by true crime, and not big on social media trends, news or politics. However, I have worked in the public sector and I can get sucked into some news cases due to my true crime interests.

General kinks: slapping, spanking, choking, spitting, collaring, mild pet play, degradation, deepthroat, orgasm control, free use, kneeling...

Some of my limits: scat, puking, knife play, blood/wounds, fisting...

•Preferred age range: 34 - 45. I have relatively high expectations around emotional maturity, communication and conflict resolution, while also recognizing I'd likely be perceived as immature to someone old enough to be my father. And I've never been able to successfully navigate the power dynamic around age differences when dating someone younger.

•Preferred type: dad bod or semi-fit, bald or short hair (ideal but others welcome!), no height preferences. Physical attraction is super important so I'd love if we could agree to exchange pics (or dating app profile links) within the first week or two of chatting.

•Availability: It would probably be most practical if you too are in a (ENM/CNM) relationship. I'm concerned I'd be kicked to the curb once you find a partner or I may not be able to meet your expectations around availability if you're single. Similar timezones preferable!

•Nudes/Nudity: I'll admit that I'm very wary about sharing nudes. We'll have to negotiate how we'll navigate this aspect of the dynamic.

Thanks for reading! Please tell me a little about yourself, share a pic if you're comfortable and clarify your location when you reach out.

Chat with you soon. Toodles!