I'm new to the BDSM community and still finding my way around here, so bear with me.

I've been searching for the right person for a long time. I know I'm after a soft Dominant, but I haven’t found anyone who matches what I’m really looking for yet — someone who can lead with patience and understanding, not only in the bedroom but in life. The truth is, I’ve never really had the chance to explore my submissive side because I’ve never felt safe enough with someone to try.

I’m a bit of a handful, but not because I want to be defiant all the time. It’s more about how much I cherish my independence and the boundaries I’ve built up over time. I need someone who understands that for me to let my guard down, I have to feel safe, cherished, and wanted. I really want someone who makes me want to let go of control in the right ways. The idea of surrendering to someone I trust feels like it would be the most freeing experience, but I also need to feel like I’m the only one for you.

When it comes to dynamics, I’m drawn to a relationship that isn’t just about BDSM, but more of a full connection — someone who can be tender and affectionate but still have that firm, confident side. I melt when being held, getting soft kisses, being called pet names, and hearing “good girl” when I’ve done well, but I also love being cheeky and playful, knowing that the person I’m with is steady enough to handle my sass and still care for me deeply. I love that gentle possessiveness, where I know I belong to someone and that they belong to me in return.

I would be lying if I said that looks aren’t important to me. I would like to exchange pictures early on to ensure we don’t waste each other’s time if we find each other unappealing.

I’m 170 cm, slim, have blue eyes, brown hair, and a few tattoos and piercings. People often tell me I’m cute and pretty, but there’s more to me than just that. I’m a dreamy, artsy, slightly shy and insecure girl who loves music, visual art, video games, and works in game development. I have a ton of affection to give to the right person and would love to share that closeness with someone who makes me feel safe enough to surrender.

If you’re tall, tattooed, with an athletic build, and have that sharp look I can’t get enough of, that’s definitely an immediate attraction boost.

To sum up, I'm looking for a loyal , faithful Dom around my age who’s willing to build a deep emotional connection first — someone who values getting to know me as much as I’ll want to know them. If you’re a gentle, confident leader who enjoys guiding your partner through a trusting and loving relationship, I’d love to connect with you.

There's another post in my profile that describes in more detail who I’m looking for. If you read that letter and feel like I am speaking to you, I beg you to let me know.

So, if you’re out there looking for something real, let’s talk. Maybe we’ll be just what each other’s been searching for.