I'm a 37 year old female from Alabama. I am a submissive, a spanko, and a little. I am 5'1" and weigh 342 pounds as of my last physical. My worth is founded on much more than a number on a scale or my dress size, so please do not waste my time or yours if you have an issue with fat women. I've been involved in the BDSM lifestyle for 15 years. BDSM/kink is not sexual for me, though I enjoy some kink with my sex. I am in an open relationship, and I'm looking to find a Dominant whether online or in person.

At the core of my kink is a yearning for structure, accountability, and discipline. I crave accountability and discipline like air. I crave the apprehensive, tummy-flipping, heart-pounding, throat-tightening, spine-tingling, butt-clenching, breathless feeling that takes over when someone starts scolding me as much as I crave the ritual of being spanked and the feeling of sitting on a sore ass for days or submitting to another unpleasant form of discipline. I long for someone else to take charge and then remind me I am not in control. My ideal dynamic includes strong elements of a domestic discipline lifestyle, is based on mutual respect, keeps our roles firmly in place, and does not allow me much wiggle room with the boundaries. I am not a masochist and I do not get off on pain.

I am a submissive with strong submissive tendencies, especially when interacting with those whom I know, love, and trust. The closer I am to you, the harder it will be for me to address you as "sir" or "ma'am", but the stronger my urge to submit to, serve, and please you will be. I do not like disappointing those whom I respect and who matter to me. I am generally eager to please. I delight in being a good girl and have a praise kink. I greatly enjoy ritual and protocols. I like knowing my place.

That being said, when it appropriate to do so, I like being a bit 'bratty'. I strive to never cross the line as not being disrespectful is extremely important to me. If I'm told I need to tone it down, I will immediately do so with a sincere apology. I enjoy being playful and testing the limits with others who enjoy brat-taming. I do not enjoy being obnoxiously bratty, outright disrespectful, or defiant.

I believe strongly in open, honest communication and respecting limits. I will not let anyone force me into anything or attempt to guilt or otherwise cajole me into anything I do not want to do, nor will I demand someone else do something with which they are uncomfortable. Everyone is entitled to be treated with courtesy, compassion, and respect and to have their boundaries observed - even, or perhaps especially, in the context of kink regardless on which side of the slash they fall.

On a more frivolous note, I am a self-described nerd. I am a "fangirl" with many different fandoms I love. I adore music and have a love for a wide range of genres. I collect stuffed animals and blankets. I desperately want to hug a Redwood tree. I love the scents of tea-tree, mint, and eucalyptus. I would rather drink iced coffee than hot coffee, and prefer hot tea to cold. I am ADHD af. I identify as queer. I love to talk on the phone. I love socks. I absolutely adore Mister Rogers and Bob Ross.

If you like what you've read and are interested in talking with me, feel free to reach out.