MEN PLEASE DON'T MESSAGE - YOU'RE JUST WASTING YOUR OWN TIME AS WELL AS MINE

TL;DR - nerdy creative sub looking for future wife and Domme (but please be the sort of person that craves all the detail!)

I'm looking for someone who wants to do life as a team. Someone reflective, empathetic, communicative. Disagreement without getting combative. That kinda thing. Perfection isn't a requirement - my psych gets far too much of my money to make that a reasonable request of anyone else - but growing and doing the work are important.

I love anything creative, animals, reading, theatre, and social science. My approach to life bounces between 'here is a heavily researched spreadsheet - look, it changes colour!' planning to 'let's pick somewhere at random and head to the airport'. I'm monogamous and kinky. Slightly bratty sub, with a small switchy streak. Will give you all the details on that once we're chatting. Plus-size and femme. Occasional ball of anxiety.

Travelling is really important to me, and I'm focused on FIRE so I can get out of full-time employment and enjoy exploring the world, taking my creative persuits further, and studying. Childfree, cat mum (would love dogs one day), and trying my best to be a good plant mum.

In short? I'm looking for the girl that craves wanderlust as much as a blanket fort and a good book. The woman that wants to discuss the universe at 3am while impulse baking (preferably with me naked except an apron and collar). The person that sees no contradiction between an evening of fine dining followed by an ice-cream van on the way home (literally for the flake - soft serve is overrated!).

I've got big goals and I'm looking for someone passionate about life, a relationship where we push each other and grow together. The 'relationship goals' memes are what I want our everyday to be - whether that's the big gestures, or sending a balloon animal to your office when you're having a bad day, or getting up early to bake that random craving you mentioned in passing. Being silly together is really important to me too.

I've found a good litmus test for people I click with is - what topic can you excitedly geek out about for 30 minutes? I don't care if that's your work, an obscure sport, the artist you're obsessed with, medieval cartography, or sea cucumbers. Just... I love people who are passionate. And I love learning new things. So tell me - what's yours?