A little about me: I'm in the UK, happily married, 3 kds. I'm a bit of a geek, I enjoy scifi & fantasy, like to read, play a lot of board games, enjoy tinkering with my tech stuff and on my car. I also write smut and enjoy sharing my library.

My wife is indulging my chastity kink a little for locktober, and hopefully into NOvember; but she isn't really into the whole thing much herself, so actually teasing and using me will be very limited. When having sex at the start of September she didn't let me cum, told me I'd get one at the end of the month (today), then be locked up for Locktober. She actually gave me one almost a week ago, & said that was the one.

So what I'm looking for from a Domme is primarily teasing and taking glee from my frustration, while giving me tasks and protocols both for her and for my wife to make it worse. I'm not the most self-motivated to get things done; and self-ideated tasks aren't very exciting. I should be doing more to help around the house, as well as finding more ways to serve, & offer to serve, my wife. It would be amazing if by the end of the month she understands just how much more she can get out of me by leveraging her having the keys to my cage.

My previous online Domme had denied me to even touch my cock for pleasure without her permission (i.e washing/toilet only), and told me I couldn't be the one to instigate sex. I went untouched for a week and it was an intense mind fuck and I loved it. So yes, I am open to somewhat intrusive controls as long as it's workable.

My absolute limits are lasting marks, scat and anything else nastily unhygienic, obviously anything illegal - but also anything publicly exposing, anything financial (other than gifts for her). I can't promise that's exhaustive, but it should give you an idea.