Hi. I am a masculine and muscular sub male in Southern California.

I am a normal guy with abnormal interests, along with normal, vanilla interests. I seek my counterpart on the dominant side. Preferably for a committed, long term relationship. A realistic, somewhat normal relationship. But with kink.

I am submissive, but I am not weak. I choose submission. Submission is not my default. No one would guess that I am submissive by my appearance or personality. My submission is inspired. I seek the one who inspires it. I am not a slave, I am submissive. I enjoy making my partner happy. In both kink, and the vanilla side of life. Because that makes me happy.

I am not a sissy, I am not a cuckold, I am not worthless, nor am I a loser. I am not a simp or desperate. These are all porn cliches, and I am very much the opposite. Why would you want anything or anyone that is worthless? I am strong, confident, intelligent and creative. I have a quick wit and a great sense of humor. I seek to be a valued sub and partner. I seek to be someone who improves your life without complicating it. I am a bit old fashioned. Very monogamous and still believe in chivalry. I seek a committed LTR if that's naturally where it goes.

I don't necessarily seek the porn depicted mistress. I seek a strong, confident woman who knows what she wants. Is very upfront about her wishes and desires and will allow me to meet and fulfill them. Which is rewarding for me, as I love to please. And is doubly rewarding if my desire to please, pleases my partner. Knowing that the only effort she needs to put in is communicating her wishes and desires. This extends to the vanilla side as well. Don't hide your desires and we'll both be happy and fulfilled.

Some like to cook. Some like to eat. Good restaurants succeed on this principle. You don't go to a restaurant and demand. You tell them what you want. And they make it. If you enjoy the food, the chef is pleased. For me, a relationship is no different.

I am not into degradation and humiliation. I prefer fun and exciting. Beneficial, mutually beneficial. I choose submission, you don't need to degrade me to maintain the hierarchy. If that's the dynamic you seek, we wouldn't be a good match.

I am, again, realistic, and seek the same. We don't have to play 24/7, or be in character or roles 24/7. But we will always know who has final say. Vanilla activities are fun too. I am a normal guy with abnormal (and normal) interests. Variety. I am just as happy with vanilla activities as kink. Bikes, hiking, beach, mountains, museums, movies, concerts.

I am in the gym at least 3 days a week. I mostly try to eat healthy. But I'm not fanatical about either. Rarely drink, and never do drugs or smoke anything. I am more muscular than the average guy, but nothing crazy. Am happy where I'm at and maintain now, not build. N

My big kink is chastity. I love chastity. I love the control. I especially love it when my partner truly enjoys wielding that control. Chastity is the only form of play that can actually be 24/7. I seek someone who can be very selfish sexually and does not apologize for it, nor has any room for guilt. Someone who uses that pleasure imbalance as a form of teasing. And is even turned on by the imbalance and the power to continue the imbalance. I am very functional and very sexual. It is the control that I love. Along with the arousal, frustration, anticipation, and knowing that my desire to please is something you enjoy. I seek someone who enjoys having her pleasure prioritized as much as I enjoy prioritizing it. Someone who prefers that to be a dynamic in the relationship rather than just an element of play.

I am a moderate masochist. Nothing crazy extreme. But I do love to be pushed and tested. How much really depends on how much enjoyment you get out of my pain or discomfort. The more you enjoy it, the more I enjoy it as well. I also love the dichotomy of being in pain or discomfort while pleasing my partner. Goes back to the imbalance. You get pleasure, I get denial. You get pleasure, I get pain. I do seek someone somewhat sadistic, but not too extreme, to maintain this imbalance. And realistic enough to not take it too far. Sadistic tendencies during play, fun and pleasant outside of play. Communication is key here. As is variety.

I am successful but I am not stupid. I seek someone to share life with. Not a financial arrangement. I am looking for compatibility, not compromise. If you are really into sissies but will "make an exception" for me, we are not compatible. I won't be with someone who would lower their standards for me. It is just not a good starting point. If it's not mutually beneficial, then what is the point? I have absolutely zero interest in hook-ups, casual, hotel meets, or anything that doesn't resemble a relationship.

I have houses in Palm Springs and Big Bear Lake, and split my time between them based on the weather. I am only interested in a real time, face to face, actual relationship. Zero interest in virtual, online or long distance. I can help the right person come here. And I would be willing to relocate if it is a really good location.

I have a nice life, and would love someone to share it with. Feel free to message me with any questions. I will not bother you or pursue if we are not compatible. I don't have the time or desire to be a pest or force something that wasn't meant to be.

I will not respond to "hello" messages. I am seeking a strong, confident, dominant woman. "Hello" does not convey confidence.