I know how hard it is out here. Thereās an endless pile of male Doms. Each one more full of ourselves than the last. If youāre even reading this how do you pick which post youāre going to respond to. What would āstanding outā even look like? Someone self-aware? Someone who recognizes the position youāre in? Someone who will treat you with respect? Someone who will start on an even playing field especially when the goal is an intentional consensual power imbalance? Someone who isnāt just looking for quick sexual satisfaction even though we know how to bring that about for you and for us? Someone who wants to get to know you deeply? Someone who understands that trust isnāt just earned, but proving trustworthiness is an ongoing process? Someone who knows when to take things seriously and when to be playful?
Itās easy to talk about floggers and gags and commands. It difficult to talk about insecurities and fears. It takes security to know that being vulnerable doesnāt make you weak on either side of the slash.
What all that amounts to is that finding the right partner for you is difficult. It can feel impossible. I certainly donāt think Iām the right partner for everyone, but maybe, just maybe Iām the right partner for you. Iām all the things listed above and a whole lot more. Iām emotionally and physically available. Iām openly and directly communicative.
I havenāt said much about what Iām looking for. Thatās somewhat intentional. Iām open to a lot and would prefer to create a dynamic organically based on mutual interests. So tell me what youāre into.
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