Let’s try this again. From your perspective.

You are in a relationship currently that is vanilla. Your partner or husband or roommate isn’t into the kink you’re into. In fact, they don’t worship you the way you wish they would.

Discretion is key for you, online is your preference for now, but you want that focus and obsession and psychological connection with a submissive partner. You want a man focused on your pleasure. You want a man who is ready to let you make all the decisions. You want a man who wakes up thinking about how to make you feel good and goes to bed feeling good if he did.

You want to control his pleasure. Orgasm control and denial, chastity, pushing him to the edge of what may be comfortable for him but which demonstrates just how focused on you he is. You want to know he will do anything for you because it’s what you want. And he will, because that’s what he wants too. Limits? I’m sure he has the usual limits when it comes to crazy illegal or immoral things but otherwise there is no need for limits because he’s just excited to be able to deliver on the things that turn you on because, well, that’s what a good focused dedicated sub does for his domme.

Yes, you want someone mature and in good shape but you also want someone who can hold a convo, make you laugh and then slip into that subspace you love to see so much when YOU slip into your dominant space. Heck, you want things the way you want them so good thing he wants that too.

You want him to love your curves, which he will. You want him to become obsessed both physically and mentally to who you are, which will happen in the most perfect scenario. You want to finally be able to be that unapologetic version of you while he can do the same for himself. No judgement. Full acceptance in every single aspect.

You want to control him and he wants you to do just that. That’s what you want and that’s what he wants, too.