I use BDSM as a label to describe certain facets of my identity and proclivities that I have. For example I find comfort and satisfaction taking a leadership role with nurturing instincts. In my career that has meant being a manager and running my own businesses. In my personal life that means being the reliable friend and a shepherd in my intimate relationships. I take an even keeled, middle road approach, balancing Dominance, sadism, and passion with love, empathy, and understanding. Power exchange is a way of codifying that nature into a mutually beneficial dynamic.

Physical touch is my primary love language. Whether it’s kissing😘, heavy petting, cuddling, slapping, biting, or any number of ways to touch I am nearly always going to want to touch you. Just about the only time I’m not interested in touching is when I’m trying to fall asleep 😜. I am affectionate and playful. Due to this penchant I am not well suited for online only or indefinite long distance. I live in the middle of nowhere so long distance and travel for visits temporarily is well within tolerances.

I am intelligent and crave the same. I like to casually discuss the ultimate nature of reality, quantum physics (though I admit it’s all just musings on this one🧐), anti-capitalism and other leftist philosophy, as well as psychology. I am a Stargate Wars Trek fan and so much other great sci-fi. I enjoy cooking, reading (more accurately listening to audiobooks), and kayaking. I’m applying to PhD programs to become a therapist at the moment. I’m a kink and non-monogamy coach. I prefer partners who enjoy lounging on the couch and talking for hours. With intermixed makeout sessions😁. Then cooking a meal together before playing.

Communication, consent, and risk awareness are my top priority. I believe in direct, open, and honest communication. I believe in FRIES (Freely given Revocable Informed Enthusiastic Specific/Sober) consent. I believe in RACK (Risk Aware Consensual Kink). As far as kinks go I have experience across a broad swath of physical and psychological kinks. I am open to a wide range of power exchange dynamics though I am not at all submissive. Some of my top kinks are CNC, bondage, orgasm play, and S&M. Some of my main power exchange interests are values based dynamics, service submission, and heavy protocol. However, I am very eclectic and open to organically developing a dynamic based on mutual needs and interests.

I am demisexual and need some degree of connection to engage. The more intense the engagement the heavier the requirements for the connection. While physical appearance is not the only important factor to me we will meet someday and so it is a factor. I believe in addressing that early on by exchanging g-rated pictures when comfort is established.

If there’s anything I have not addressed please feel free to ask. Even if we don’t end up engaging in BDSM together I’m always open to friends.