Trying this yet again …

Hello there!

I’ve posted this before ... I’ve had some not so great and some decent responses from my other attempt yet the search for the right Dominant is still ongoing.

In my time exploring irl, I’ve come to know a couple things about myself. I’m what I’ve heard called an alpha submissive. I need an assertive, sometimes stern, dominant man that is kind and patient. I need him to be kinky minded with some taboo interests. He needs to enjoy wielding praise often, but must also able to put me in my place without hesitation. I can be a brat, because it’s fun for me, he should enjoy the playful ways in which brats run up to the line and push, without crossing over the actual boundary. If he doesn’t enjoy brattiness, he won’t enjoy me. He should also be available and emotionally stable.

Basics about me: * 38 years young * Black * I’ve experienced long term commitment, marriage and now am experiencing divorce. (I am working on what needs healed and don’t plan to bleed baggage onto a new partner.) * I have two step-children (older teens) from said marriage, I’m very active in their lives and will continue to be. * I have a successful career where i often have to take charge and lead. * I can and DO stand on my own (that alpha submissive) but I’m happiest inside secure submission. * I am in therapy, to heal from my failed marriage and other “traumas” so as to continue to be emotionally mature and stable minded. * I have a solid and dependable group of friends and interest that will exist outside of our connection. * I'm funny, smart, and creative. * I'm 5'6, BBW build(with some extra quarantine/divorce lbs I’ve started working to lose). * I have been told and believe I have a beautiful smile . * I do not have a desire to have biological kids of my own, though fostering could potentially be an option in the future.

I’ve had time to discover the “must haves” I need in a partner: - Consistent affection - Attention
- Very vocal/verbal - Clear and open communication
- Trust
- Reassurance - Positive encouragement /praise - Expects the best of me and pushes me to be my best.
- Stable/Dependable

Some of my kinks(though I am very much open to exploring anything that isn’t already a hard no for me):

~Power exchange (clearly) ~OTK spankings ~Restraints ~Some … soooome exhibitionism ~praise ~degradation ~Sensory play ~Impact play (I am NOT A masochist) ~CNC ~Breeding play ~I enjoy Daddy Doms tremendously but do not regress.

~I’ve explored humiliation and “free use” too

Please don’t use, or expect me to use, honorifics when we first start chatting or meet. I will NOT use or answer to them until they’ve been earned by all parties. … if you don’t know what honorifics are, we probably won’t match well.

I mentioned I’m a brat, this is true, and while submitted it’s all in good fun. If it I seem like a brat when you first meet me it’s because I don't blindly follow rules or do what I am told for strangers or people I’m just getting to know. In those phases of connection, I enjoy conversation and play between EQUALS.

I am from DC, living in DE. I’d much prefer you be local, BUT, since the early days will be mostly conversation and connection I’m open to further away. If you’re anywhere in the continental US, and you feel like we could be magnificent together, I am open to travel (when it’s appropriate) and maybe even relocation).

I have put a lot of time, thought and effort into this ad and request you do the same with your response. Low effort responses will not be acknowledged.

If you find you just like my post and connect with it, but maybe you know we wouldn’t be a good long term match, feel free to message me. We all need friends!

Thank you!