Hello. I will preface this with it might be a long read and what I desire is specific in nature. I hope I come off as respectful to the D-types out there, I'm just really trying to be upfront and promise I am submissive even if it seems like I'm not based on my writing. :)

Like the title states, I am looking for something real. I've always wanted this underlying part of a relationship that includes a D/s dynamic (where I am the s-type). I've gone through enough therapy to feel comfortable expressing my needs and this part of me - knowing that I need some elements of this in order to thrive and feel satisfied. There's a certain type of creativity and intimacy that is cultivated in this type of dynamic. Fetlife has been pretty disappointing (but a great place to meet friends) and I'm not one for the ENM/poly lifestyle. I would like to say I'm somewhat experienced and feel like I offer a lot to a potential D-type. I am not sure realistically if something can be 24/7 but I am looking for this to be a significant part of life.

Some vanilla bits: I am educated/have a career, have good relationships with friends and family, enjoy hobbies such as being outside (love the mountains!) and working out, baking and cooking, watching random movies on Netflix, reading, candlemaking, and so on. I have a petite/average build, with blue eyes and brown hair.

As an s-type, some things I bring to the table:

• Reliability, consistency, and attentiveness.
• Dedication and service.
• Passion and emotional intelligence.
• Independence - I'm really not looking to be micromanaged (but open to discussion depending on the dynamic).

Some things I enjoy in a D-type (& I hold myself to these same expectations):

• Stable, kind, and caring.
• Consistent and reliable.
• Somewhat healthy.
• Driven & educated, intelligence is lovely.
• Puts in effort. Has their own life/kinks they are interested in.

I did not list anything in the D/s or sexual realm so far, as the above are really important to me. Like fundamentally, we should be able to be friends in a way. If you agree with the above, I hope you continue on please. :) There are a lot of kinks that I'm into/curious about but let's keep it to four to be minimalistic:

• D/s
• Shibari & any type of sensation play
• Interrogation play
• Anal

Thank you for reading. As I mentioned, what I'm looking for is specific. I want something with meaning and longevity and hope that you do as well. I am not limiting my search to the US but I am not sure if I would relocate - that is maybe up for discussion. Take care!