What draws you to BDSM and kink? What is the appeal of Dominance for you? Are you in it for the lifestyle? For an exciting fuck? Maybe a need for control drives you?

I know it’s a bland answer, but for me there’s simply nothing else. The thrill and connection I get from being bested in a battle of wits is intoxicating. Knowing I’m outmatched and throwing myself into that challenge regardless, being reduced into a squirming, needy kitten only wanting to submit is a need so deep that I’m just.. Listless without it. The level of communication we practice as kinksters makes me feel secure and intimate.

As a submissive I am very obedient. One could say I follow instructions to the letter. It’s a part of the game that I love. There’s no confusion in our roles. I’m a submissive and you’re a Dominant. But when I tease and challenge it’s an invitation for banter. I want to be tongue tied. I want to eagerly anticipate what you’ll do next. I want to be reminded of why I submit.

I don’t really make these posts with the expectation of just finding a Dominant. It’s not the label or status I’m after. Not anyone will suffice. I’m not looking for a 50 shades cosplay. I hope that somewhere out there is my match. The person who lights my passion and fire, but with a steady and reliable warmth. A connection in this sea of ghosts we call humanity.

I’m needy. I’m clingy. But I’m also independent. If we find that connection you’ll occupy my thoughts. A lot. I’ll think about you while I’m out with friends or enjoying my own company. Taking walks. I’ll take whatever time you have to give, but with the expectation that there will also be time apart. To make the heart grow fonder, and all that.

If this resonates with you, you’re somewhere between 35 and 50, appreciate that brats =/= assholes, and value kindness, communication, and community let’s chat. I’m open to online to start, but would eventually want an offline relationship/dynamic.