What I’m searching for and what I’m offering is very similarly. Hopefully you and I are searching for the same thing.

Above all I’m searching for interesting conversation, conversation that flows like we are dancing (not like I’m hunting). I really miss interesting conversation that makes hours feel like minutes and make me look forward to it when I’m busy.

I’m searching for kinky people for who kink is something they do, not something they are. Please don’t open with “hello daddy/sir”. Be a person first, we’ll get to that stuff if we both like each other.

I’m searching for very kinky people, not afraid to be dark, twisted, fucked up. I’m into pain, humiliation, bondage, play beyond the bedroom, D/s, CNC, crops, whips, rope, needles, watersports, collars, cuffs, metal, so many things. We don’t have to have a 100% match, but enough to have fun. I’m into int DDlg/b, being called daddy, incest and a lot of variations around it (no problem if you are, but know it’s a turn off). I’m searching for people that have at least mostly, if not completely, accepted themselves in this dimension.

I’m searching for people that have their shit together. “Adulting” as a term annoys me because it’s generally used to describe avoiding responsibility until everything is a mess. I like being silly and laughing and not taking things too seriously, especially myself. But I also like having my shit together and my responsibilities covered.

I’m searching for people without kids. I don’t have any and I don’t plan to have any. Aside from the fact that serious long term committed relationships can come from anywhere (I’m not setting artificial ceilings here), I’ve found that kids tend not to be compatible with playtime, having fun, etc. (I’m sorry, this sucks).

I’m searching for honest people. It’s ok if you are in a relationship, I have other partners too, but we are all poly and accept other relationships. Nobody is cheating here and I’m searching for others that aren’t cheating.

I’m searching for any age above 21 as long as it ticks the other boxes listed above.

Now, with this, I think I have ruled out 100% of reddit and looking forward to you proving me wrong. At any rate, thank you for reading this far and I wish you the best in this journey that can sometimes be so hard.